How do I pursue a crush at work without being unprofessional?

We’ve spent time with each other at trainings. I’ve Skyped her a few times for work reasons, but that’s been it. I don’t go to the office

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I say keep it as a friendly work crush. I'm not a big fan of dipping my pen in the company ink.

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Hahaha yeah me too....I thought your leaving next week! She could be engaged to someone else in five months, you better act fast!

I'm a girl and I had a crush on a manager at work. When the news came out that he was leaving the company soon, I decided to tell him my feelings (figuring there was an easy out should he not return the same sentiments).

I didn't expect any particular outcome; I just wanted to know if he shared the same romantic feelings/thoughts for me.

In my case, it worked out in that when I told him how I felt, it turns out that he was equally interested/attracted, but couldn't act on it at the time because of the fact that we worked together.

Just food for thought.

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Maybe try to get to know her at happy hour or other gatherings. Then just ask her out. I don’t think there’s any harm in it. If she says no then just move on. Worse thing is to always wonder or have “what if” for the rest of your life.

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This sounds like the best play, honestly. If nothing else it gives me a reason to actually go to one of those!

I assume there can’t be any harm in asking just once, right? If she says no I probably won’t even see her again, so nbd

What’s your gender ? I guess it depends. I am a woman and never have the guts to go talk to a man. Maybe the other person also has a crut??

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“Hey girl, what c’yo name is?”

Can’t miss.

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Why would it hurt? Not sure why the whole world makes it such a big deal! 🙄 I’m a girl and I say just shoot your shot. How old are you anyway? We’re not in high school or even college. Don’t care what people think and also nothing wrong to express your feelings. As long as you’re not creepy about it afterwards neither will she. I would be discrete and not even mention it.

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I see lunch as a pretty neutral move and if you make it a group, just sit next to her and get to know her. Reason is I don’t think anything about eating lunch with staff or colleagues. It’s just normal but dinner is something or maybe more casual to ask her out for coffee?

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