How do i worry less? Im an overthinker and like to make best informed decisions. But I over do it and think before during and after a decision which is unnecessary. It slows me down so any tips?

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You'll never really know if you made the best decision because we can't live in a parallel reality where a different decision was made. So just make the decision with the information you got and do that over and over again.


Think about it this way. You may have been making suboptimal decisions your whole life and overall you're doing alright in life. It could always be worse and it could always be better. You'll never know.

So don't let what you can't control, control you. You'll be ok.


One of the biggest factors to take into account is breaking up the decision into “what part of this can I control” and only worrying about that piece.

You can’t control how others will act or react or how other things may play out so don’t worry about those aspects (or try not to at least!).


Practicing mindfulness. Seriously. Using headspace meditation sessions consistently (5-10 minutes per day) really helped me be able to push aside unnecessary thoughts.


I will try it out! Thank you

Cognitive behavioural therapy works wonders for this


I tried doing therapy but the therapist jept making me to worksheets and I couldn't see the point in that. Maybe I should have switched therapists

Focus only on the things you can control, not things that are done and over with. Challenge your thoughts with reassuring facts and then distract yourself. Also look up ABC method of CBT


Meditate for 20 minutes everyday for 20 days in a row and your life will change. Also EXERCISE!!!


OP, it doesn’t have to be a major commitment that overwhelms you. It could be 5 min of meditation or simply trying to incorporate mindfulness into your day to day whenever you’re able to. For example, go for a walk without your phone and try to pay attention to all your senses (smells, look around, feel your joints as you slowly walk, etc). Or slow down when you’re eating to focus on the textures, smells, taste of your food Etc.

The idea is to slow down and be present as much as you can. Doesn’t have to be perfect but find ways to ground yourself and stay in the now.


I’m an avid list maker and it’s helped me immensely. I make a pro/con list for decisions I’m about to make that I know will cause me anxiety (e.g. moving apartments). When I make a decision that stresses me out I write down which parts of that decision I can control. A lot of the time the anxiety stems from the unknowns. Figure out what those unknowns are (e.g. is she mad I said that?) and look at what will help you feel less anxious about it, if any (e.g. should I ask her to have a discussion with me later? Will this still affect me later? What are the implications of bringing it back up?). Then pro/con it.

Or make an effort to ignore the unknowns entirely and only address them if they come up. Worrying shows you’re a conscious, empathetic person. Lean into your actions and remember the adage “don’t ask for permission— ask for forgiveness.” Ask people for feedback rather than trying to guess or being haunted by the unknown.

I’ve heard mindfulness helps, too, and getting exercise and good sleep. All of these things can help you relieve anxiety. If this fails, maybe try therapy?


What’s the context? For ex, do you over think/over analyze with people (like your boss) or directly with your work (e.g. client deliverable) ?

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Learn to trust. In your partner, in your colleagues, in a higher power, in life. That helped for me.

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