How do new moms handle needing to travel for work periodically if your husband is also in a demanding job and you don’t have any family members nearby?

likehelpful
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

You can’t- someone has to step back and be primary caregiver. Otherwise you hire 24/7 help.

like

We hired at first and then decided my husband would take a change in careers so he could avoid all travel. I’m the breadwinner and the transition had its bumps along the way but it’s worked well especially now that the kids are in school and have school and sporting events that we want to be there for.

I told my job I couldn’t do it 😬

like

Back in my BIG4 days, I did what PwC1 did and asked for "3+1" travel schedule (3 weeks onsite, 1 week remote). My Client immediately dismissed me from the engagement. My PML threw a fit. A real no sh*t fit. HR got involved, things got really ugly.
I so do not miss that freakkin' sweatshop.

You hire someone.

like

Yep, I have a very good nanny who’s willing to stay overnight or travel as necessary. I basically see my whole paycheck go towards child care.

like

So au pairs / nannies can help. It’s also important that your husband steps up and bears some of the brunt of the disruption. Your job shouldn’t be less important than his, and so he too will have to have those conversations at work (eg need to leave early for pick up if you are out of town etc).

like

My husband was traveling extensively when we had 2 kids in London. We had no family nearby but a very good support network (friends that were in same boat). We also had a great nanny that was available on demand. For extended periods of time, we had a family member fly from another country and stay with us (3+ months). You find a way and make it work and okay to ask for help.

like

My husband and I both travel extensively but are senior enough to dictate travel requirements. We each try to minimize travel to the best of our ability and then we have made it be known that one cannot travel when the other is on the road. During those times our nanny knows she is expected to work closer to 50 hours a week and assist with dinner while the one at home wraps up work. If by some odd chance we know we both cannot avoid it, we use our points to fly in one of our parents as a last case resort

like

You probably need a nanny. And very tight communications and calendar management with your spouse. I did it for 3 years before I changed jobs. I didn’t change jobs because of the travel I just liked e new opportunity better

like

Very active and open communication between each other and our respective employers. We both try to get as much possible notice on travel dates and then adjust our availability based on the other’s schedule before confirming anything with clients/colleagues. When it’s gotten particularly tricky, we hire a teacher from daycare to help with evenings and do takeout and/or spend the night if we both need to be on the road. However, if it’s not an urgent need, we just say we’re not available to travel those dates period.

Nanny, some are willing to do overnights for extra $$$

I’ll answer for pre-covid since everything is a bit different currently. But previously, my husband and I each only traveled once maybe twice a year. The one of us at home would just block their work calendar as needed (when kids were in childcare or school during the day, we’d just block for morning drop off and then late afternoons and evenings). We knew the trips all in advance so could plan accordingly. You could also use a neighborhood teenager or a nanny to help with whatever’s the trickiest time of day to figure out. Or somebody who can pick them up from school/daycare. Really depends on how much travel you’re talking about and how flexible your husband’s job is.

Oh- also- I was invited to a promotion/leadership conference that was while I was breastfeeding. I said no and everybody was fine with that. My company has a free benefit that will ship the pumped milk home in special containers and such, but I just didn’t want to deal with all that.

We have had au pairs work 8-6 and its worked well. While husbands job is demanding, he is able to get home by 6 on the days I travel and log back on after bed time. Not sure how it would work if we couldn't do that

“Periodically” should be absolutely do-able with busy schedules. If you enough notice (two weeks at least?), would your husband be able to notify his employer? If not, then you should start interviewing part time nannies/babysitters - most people want a schedule, rather than an as needed, unless you’re fortunate to find one that doesn’t need the money and is just kind of bored. College students are usually great, but not always available. Be open about the need and try to identify more than one, for backups. Good luck!

Related Posts

Anyone know what comp and wlb are like at FAANG companies? Is the wlb worse than other industries?

like

For the past 6+ months, I've been thinking of getting an LV neverful MM for work, but I was wondering if anyone has a Valentino rockstud or the YSL shopping tote? Is the neverfull the best option for work (and carryon travel)?

like

I’m really happy being gf&bf with my significant other - I’m 41 and I don’t want kids and I am not desperately seeking marriage. I’m really happy with just this & my job. I think it weirds his immigrant family out a lot. His mother apparently was very cold/rude to his ex-gf (I found this out bc I asked) and his sister is very cold and has a very judgmental attitude about women that don’t wanna be a wife & have kids (just like her.) I wanna avoid holidays at their place - any advice?

like

Hi fishes!
Need some suggestion.
I have last 7 days left in my LWD. I am currently in new delhi
Having the following offers in hand
Globallogic:24 fixed
Sapient :22 fixed + 2 variable
United airlines: 22.5 fixed + 2000 USD variable
Nagarro: 21 fixed

Yoe: 4.5
Tech: Dot net full stack

like

I think my brother is an idiot when it comes to his dating life. He recently started dating someone that the whole family loves - really down to earth, great personality, educated, hot and has a career. I just found out my bro is cheating on her with his ex (who is toxic/manipulative, stole money from my mother & doesn’t have a job or trying to get one). From a personality, values & looks perspective, the new girlfriend is what every guy would dream of. Im jealous &wish I could date her instead

likefunny

How old was ur first kid when u and ur partner left them for an overnight trip??

like

Anyone work at Putnam? Thoughts on culture, wlb, reputation, etc.?

like

Hi! I’m a physical therapist and curious if anyone has a side hustle(s) while working full time in health care and what it is? Looking for more financial stability for my future as I’m unsure how longI will work as a PT full time! Thanks in advance

like

Anyone in the area a fan of going to outdoor breweries or bars during these times? Lost most of my social circle after a breakup a few months ago (they were her friends since I was always traveling and couldn’t meet others or join groups) and with covid it’s been difficult to find ways to meet new people and make friends so figure I’d try here. trying to find some people in the area to hang out with in smaller groups! 23 y/o M if that matters

like

Graduated with a degree in managerial science and minor in marketing and a sales certificate from a very prestigious business program in GA. Have had 4 different management positions in the past. Looking for opportunities in sales that allow me to travel constantly. Preferably base + commission but open for anything with traveling (within/out the country) anyone can help me network? Thank you!

like

How do you deal with overbearing mother? Mine can’t come to terms with the fact that I have my own life, travel, live far from home, etc. and always compares me to her friends whose kids call daily...

like

How is work life balance in a CITI bank project for productions support.

like

Some of you really only bill 17/1800 hours? Are you just busy doing non-billable work or you just don’t have enough work coming to you? If it’s because you don’t have enough work does that mean you have your evenings and weekends to yourself too? Could you maybe help the rest of us out who never get either?

likefunny

Anyone in Southwest Florida know of Healthcare worker relief funds that are legitimate? Fort Myers and the surrounding areas were devastated and many critical workers have lost everything. Hospitals are evacuating and staff are moving away from whatever is left of their homes…please advise

like

My plan is to transition to Part-time or PRN (once weekly) to spend time with my baby before he’s no longer a baby anymore. I’ve had excellent childcare right now from my mom from 3 months to now-9 months of age. Now that my babe is getting older and learning so much right now I want to be present more for his neurodevelopment. My trouble is… I love the income I make full-time… What age was your child when you went part-time or stay at home? And why?

like

I've Offer from Infy 22.5 + 1 Joining Bonus (Nagpur Location) Also I've offer from Mphasis 30Lpa Will Infosys update the offer?? My preference is Infosys as per WLB and job security+ It's near to my home town Infosys Infosys Limited Infy Mphasis

like

Have you ever stopped yourself from applying to a better jobs (externally) because you like your current WLB? I easy qualify for AD positions but don’t want to sacrifice my time with my child. At the same time I want more $ 😭 (not starving now but just too ambitious)

like

Hi everybody! I’ve been offered a position at IQVIA in the primary intelligence team in UK. I heard some concerning comments about the company culture and lack of work/life balance. Can someone tell me if this is a healthy and good place to work, learn professionally and still have a personal life?

like

Anyone find discounted hotel gift cards?

like

What is a useful, comprehensive but not too long of a book for parenting toddlers?

LO is 16 months old, very sweet and social, at the park every day with other kids with either me or her nanny. Not in day care. Yesterday we had a play date and she slapped another baby on the head. Not hard and did not scare her, but the act of “aggression” took me by surprise and I felt terrible about it. I’d like to be more proactive about toddler psychology, what’s to come and how to react/ teach. TY!

like

More Posts

You are rich and have everything you need. You have 2 young kids and just turning 40. Your wife is throwing a fancy birthday party for you. What birthday gift will be meaningful to you? Budget is $150. Thank you!!

likehelpful

If gross salary is 129418, what will be CTC to be quoted to the new recruiter ?

like

Hi all
Im looking for job opportunity as Sitecore Developer in Capgemini
Please DM if there is any opening for Sitecore

like

New York sarcasm is a local delicacy that doesn't travel well.

like

Any recent joiners (this week) into Data Annotation? DM me

like

Explaining GoSystem to people

Post Photo
likefunny

Seems like Goodby has the culture but VBP has the better clients. Which one would you pick?

like

Hey everyone! I just wanted to share this book, The First 90 Days, I’m reading that helps with transitions into new positions. It’s given great tips so far!

Any self-help/improvement books you want to share that you have found impactful?

Post Photo
likehelpful

Does anyone know the salary range for UK based SVP at Citi?

like

Agency IT recruiter-
This market is BANANAS. How are you finding most of your placements?
LinkedIn Recruiter was my go-to but lately the response rate has been low. What board (or source) has been the most lucrative for you in this market?

like

Need help ! What can I write in my duties for DS-160
I am a SC with D in Systems Engineering

How soon can we sell the shares bought under ESPP or what is the minimum lockin?

Any good strategy consulting firms in LA that don’t have a toxic work culture? Very ready to leave Deloitte and don’t want to work 60+ hr weeks anymore. Pipe dream? (Also taking recs for other jobs)

like

Best Marriott property in or within 15m of downtown Houston?

Any lesbian 🐠 in chi next week?

like

Thought leadership at its finest.

Post Photo
funnylike

what's the retirement age at Publicis Sapient ?
Is it good for retirement?
I am just 6 YOE, but thought about it as I have offer from ibm

funny

I feel like I am failing my kid by having them in daycare with these increasing covid, flu and rsv cases. Shes 5 months old and already has had RSV, covid and has been coughing everyday since I put her in daycare two months ago. Please Mamas tell me Im not crazy for being stressed out😢

like

Question for those that got their breast pump through Limerick (EY’s program), was the silicone breast cup truly ‘one size fits all?’ Different sizes aren’t available.

like

Are home warranties worth getting? Closed on a house in the Western suburbs - about 30 years old, though maintained well

like

Additional Posts in Working Moms

Anyone return to work from maternity leave experience a major change in their role (i.e. getting sidelined or unofficially demoted in their role)? What steps did you take to address this?

like

My son’s first birthday is coming up and my parents want to gift him $1k in a separate account under his name for him to use in the future. My husband and I make about $250 combined so but paying off student loans and a mortgage so don’t have much in assets. My parents only make $50-70k a year. We’re all pretty clueless about money. What would be the best way to invest in his future?

like

I (36F) am married to another woman (34F) and we have a baby (5moF). We split all childcare, cleaning, meal prep, errands etc fairly evenly and it works well. Maybe she cooks more than I do bc she likes it, and I clean more bc I need to have a clean house. My friend (35F) recently took a business trip and literally put a binder together with instructions for her husband re: daycare drop off and pick up, what to feed the kids, when to take out the trash and so on. (Cont in comments)

like

Curious with this new higher tax credit for kids, do we need to be adjusting withholdings? Or is it kite just expect a bigger refund next year?

likehelpful

I have an extremely difficult 2.5 year old boy. I know this is a difficult toddler age altogether but I think I’m experiencing way worse. There are frequent tantrums in public settings and it’s very embarrassing. We can’t do anything. He’s in daycare and apparently he thrives, so we just don’t get it. Should we wait it out or consult a behavior therapist?

like

How old was ur first kid when u and ur partner left them for an overnight trip??

like

My plan is to transition to Part-time or PRN (once weekly) to spend time with my baby before he’s no longer a baby anymore. I’ve had excellent childcare right now from my mom from 3 months to now-9 months of age. Now that my babe is getting older and learning so much right now I want to be present more for his neurodevelopment. My trouble is… I love the income I make full-time… What age was your child when you went part-time or stay at home? And why?

like

What is a useful, comprehensive but not too long of a book for parenting toddlers?

LO is 16 months old, very sweet and social, at the park every day with other kids with either me or her nanny. Not in day care. Yesterday we had a play date and she slapped another baby on the head. Not hard and did not scare her, but the act of “aggression” took me by surprise and I felt terrible about it. I’d like to be more proactive about toddler psychology, what’s to come and how to react/ teach. TY!

like

I feel like I am failing my kid by having them in daycare with these increasing covid, flu and rsv cases. Shes 5 months old and already has had RSV, covid and has been coughing everyday since I put her in daycare two months ago. Please Mamas tell me Im not crazy for being stressed out😢

like

I just want to share my joy that season 5 of Workin’ Moms is here on Netflix!

like

Hi working moms at EY, when should I contact Limericks lactation consultant? Are they helpful? I have my doula and she also offers lactation but I’m not sure if I should also check Limericks. I’m 30 weeks pregnant. TIA!!

like

A month ago I gave my boss a formal letter requesting a review of my current job duties and a salary adjustment and title change. I’m performing at a senior level and not being paid for it. She agreed with the argument and submitted request to HR. Last week I asked her for an update and she casually said it will probably take three more months bc HR is so backed up and dropped it. I’m grossly underpaid and getting more tasks daily. What can I do? Can this be retroactive? I’m so fed up.

like

Selling SIMILAC FORMULA! I would donate it… but I paid so much money for it and my son won’t drink it.

I have 30 small bottles and 6 of the big ones. DM me if interested.

like

Not sure what the best path forward is but just got out of a week of in person meetings- did not want to go but was told that it would be a bad look to not go (I operate somewhat outside of my business group) by my mgr and mgr said it was important for us to meet for us to feel more comfortable working together. I then go and mgr avoids me the entire time (after requests to meet and level set on priorities). Do I address head on? It felt physically uncomfortable to be around this person.

like

Wanted to get an idea. My almost 10 month old baby never crawled not matter how much tummy time we did with her. She only wants to stand and is trying to walk (supported. She cannot pull herself up well and if she is on her back she doesn't know how to get herself up. She can roll over no issues. How can I help her? We do exercises to help her learn to pull herself up and roll her to the side to teach her how to move from back to sitting. I'm not sure how to help her. Ftm here. Anxiety!!!

like

Breast implant question: I'm 30 and planning on having kids within the next few years. I would like to get my breasts done at some point (lift and small implants). Is it best to wait until you're done having kids to get the procedure?

like

Please keep me active

like

Good people, I hope you are all faring well over there. Wanted to share this ‘Working From Home Best Practices Doc’—hope y’all find it useful. Sending positive vibes. Stay safe.

Post Photo
like

Please help - what are some reasons for sudden chronic constipation and natural remedies?

like

A different kind of working mom post:

Many of you have young kids... are there any moms of teens here?

I am at a point where my teen's newfound "independence" is starting to impact my focus and time at work - his running off to hang with friends without permission, etc is becoming a distraction during the workday, and the impact has definitely been noticed by my superiors at work.

The issues with the kid are being handled appropriately - this is more about how to overcome perception at work

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal