How do u keep communication in a relationship if one person is emotional & other isn't (ex check-ins, how to recover from a fight, best way to not hold a grudge if something was said out out of anger)

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It’s tough. Dealing with the same rn. My gf is super emotional and any observation is taken to the heart and past is brought in. I think patience is the key. Time heals everything.

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Me and my fiancé have a rule...never go to bed angry. That forces communication and we often resolve fights the same day.

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I think the key is to be mindful of their communication needs and acknowledge their natural reaction to something (especially if it wouldn’t be your response in that situation). You should be able to share how you feel when a certain thing is said / done, so the other person learns and can adapt how they communicate the message. For me, it was explaining my intention and why I was talking about a specific thing before I started discussing it and making sure I said it was my thought / my opinion, not “the only” or “right” thought. It’s also about giving the other person space to process when they need it, and not letting things linger. Apologise instantly as soon as you know you’re wrong and don’t hold grudges. Try strategies that work for you eg when my boyfriend gets frustrated, he leaves the room for 5 seconds, and comes back calmer and ready to discuss things again. It gets easier as time goes by and you understand each other better.

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