How do y’all deal with guys like this? I hate playing the psycho-sexual toxic games that gay guys love to play. Any advice appreciated.

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There just comes a point where you respect yourself too much to go through this. If this isn’t what you’re looking for, be kind to yourself by communicating that and leave this behind. Don’t set your emotional health on fire just to keep someone else warm.

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I find if conversation is unnatural for any reason, and there is insufficient time in person, it’s time to move on. Not compatible.

Relationships are work. But the beginning has to prove that both parties want to put in the work.

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I don’t mind chasing or even playing a bit of psycho-games. However, if they’re not willing to meet me halfway, they’re not worth my time.

Usually a good indicator I’ve used is 3 strikes rule, as in I’ll initiate 3 times and if they don’t I’ll move on.

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Thank you everyone! I basically told him I’m not going to play this game and haven’t heard back yet so that settles that! Onto the next one! Happy Valentine’s Day everyone :)

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I hope you find your happiness, whatever or whomever that may be!

I echo the comments that at least he is aware but personally, I’m not getting paid to be his therapist or fixer so it’s a no from me.

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They’re not owning their module. Next.

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He seems aware of the stupidity at least and was willing to write back eventually. If I really like this guy I might give it a chance but it’s a turn off. We’re not in kindergarten

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Relpy "bye"

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or “boiiii bye”

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Who has time for that?

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I used to be that guy 🤦🏼‍♂️ And you definitely shouldn’t get involved into this. This is a matter of personal growth and maturity, and that jorney is only his job.

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Drop 👏 His 👏 Ass

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Just curious, How old are you both?

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I’m 26 and he’s 25

I relate to that guy. When I’m in that position I’d only send that follow up explanation if I actually wanted it to work with the guy, otherwise probably would’ve ghosted

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Oof I have had the same dialogue with someone like this in the past...

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Move on. If these are the mind games now, imagine what it’ll be like when you are in deeper.

Keep searching - you’ll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince; enjoy the journey!

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run the other way... 🏃🏽

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I ignore them

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