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Well, ey connect day was pretty chill
Feels good to get done at 5 o'clock for once!
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Following. Iโm a senior as well and struggling hard with this ๐ ๐
โYeah Iโll have it back to you shortlyโ unless it is a legitimate crisis (aka I wouldnโt do this on the client deadline day)
When people first start seeing that youโre holding firm to your boundaries it can be uncomfortable for them. This is a them problem, not a you problem. Eventually these boundaries will benefit those below you and your clients as your team will be happier and your clients will respect you.
I usually say Iโm working on other stuff and will get it to them by so and so time. Iโm an associate though
With 30 yrs experience Iโd advise you to be honest and tell them that you have a personal commitment. Please do note the client deadline day comment in one reply - ie judgment is critical. Weโre talking about time for you (which is very important) not juggling the multiple responsibilities. Most people will respect you for your honestyโฆ and encourage you. If they donโt, come work on my team ๐. Good luck
Agree with P1, also let your team know of your recurring personal time slots, so they can be mindful as well..
Also a senior here, it unfortunately comes down also to the people you work with. To a previous commentโs point if you have things planned, try to do it far in advanced and let the team know about it. Unless there is an actual deadline (hard deadline either for an audit committee, the SEC, or the IRS) than things can always wait and a team can function without you for the time that you need. If it was really something urgent that needed to get done the upper management should jump in and roll up their sleeves. Hopefully your teammates can respect your outside commitments or at least you should go overboard with the communication of when you are available, if you let them know and they donโt know how to work around it, that also speaks to their lack of managerial skills and you have what you need to CYA if they give attitude or worse put that in an evaluation
Just be realistic in your communications. Never over promise anything. That's the short and sweet answer.
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These answers are great assuming you can get the work done in a reasonable amount of time but I typically have to forgo my personal commitments so I can stop working at 11pm instead of 1am because there is so much work it takes working 14 hrs per day and nobody cares. So it isnโt a matter of flexibility itโs a matter of limited hours in the day and needing to sleep, eat and bathe during most of the โfreeโ ones.
Iโm finding that not giving a lot of details about what my personal plans are seems to help. I keep it vague so there is no judgement about the urgency. Say things like: โI have an important appointment.โ โI have something that canโt be rescheduled.โ โI have to be out on XX date at XXX time.โ The bottom line is that itโs none of my colleaguesโ business what Iโm doing personally. I should be the one to prioritize. I certainly work enough hours to do this without guilt. That said, Iโm not always great at putting personal plans before work things. Iโm still working on it, but this approach seems to be helping me get a little better.
I think a lot of it depends on your team. Iโve had senior managers tell me theyโll be back because that have to go let the dog out, so I just tell people I have a commitment and will be back in a couple hours and itโs not a problem. As others have said, if I thought it would be an issue I would block my calendar, and just treat it like a work meeting.
Iโm a current senior also and am on both 9/30 and 12/31 busy seasons. I was feeling this exact way so before this 12/31 I purposely signed up for a recurring commitment (sports league) one day a week, and put an ooo up for those times. I communicated it with my team, and they have been encouraging about it.
I think setting appointments work well, so people know your schedule and when they can expect to hear back.
Just be mindful that as the deadline approaches, the schedule might not work so well
Be so good at what you do that people trust you to get stuff done.
Yes set boundaries but also do reasonable boundaries. Like your charge hour goal is 60, then you canโt make plans for dinner for 3 hours everyday. I usually donโt mind as long as someone communicates in advance; things can wait; nothing is that urgent. I donโt work Sundays and I let everyone know that. In order to get there, I work till 12am everyday on weekday. The only Sunday exception would be Tuesday is deadline.
The most powerful possibilities lie within your mindset. Keeping boundaries is going to be a challenge if a voice in inside of you says something like โIโm responsible for other peoplesโ feelingsโ or โIn order to be safe, I must be liked.โ Thereโs great advice above and in plenty of articles on the internet. The next step is to notice any limiting thoughts and to replace them with something more empowering like โIโm not responsible for how other people feelโ or โI must care for myself to produce good quality work.โ
I also love the song โEnergy Budgetโ by Toni Jones. Iโve had it on repeat for a couple weeks now.
๐ถ I have the right to tell people what they don't wanna hear in the name of
setting them boundaries.
I also wont exhaust myself on people who ain't listening, i'm done with people pleasing and attachment to making everyone happy with me.๐ถ
Good luck!
I personally donโt make personal commitments during busy season. That comes with the territory and if I had an issue with that I would have picked a different career. The rest of the year though I just block my calendar, so if I have a commitment from 5-6 I block my calendar from 4.30-6.30.
As long as youโre consistent and keeping up with your workload and deadlines your team will likely not even notice.
They just asked how other people manage it, my busy season is generally a 3 month period and Iโm going on 17 years of doing it without burnout. Not making personal commitments isnโt the same thing as not taking time for myself. I still take time for myself, but I donโt commit plans to other people.
Tell them due to covid limiting the sizes and amount of people in the gym, itโs a $25 cancel fee, on top of inflation and no raises, you canโt afford not to go to the gym.