How do you all deal with family members who ask you for legal advice? Specifics: My father in law is trying to negotiate a buyout of his interest in a company in California he owns 1/3 of and he keeps asking my husband (a patent attorney in IL) and me (a divorce attorney in IL) to help them draft or negotiate contracts. They don’t want to talk to another lawyer. We have told them ad nauseam we aren’t qualified. They keep hounding us for “advice” we don’t have. The company hired a lawyer today.

Me and another teacher had a meeting with a parent and student. After the meeting, the admin asked us both to stay. He shut the door and yelled at me for not apologizing to the student (the other teacher did before the meeting and I 100% wanted to, but I felt like the opportunity wasn't there - and yes, I know I should have). Tomorrow I plan on apologizing to the student. But do I say something to the admin for yelling at me in front of a coworker? Or let it go.

My boyfriend and I have been trying for the past 5-6 months. Meaning he’s come inside me every time. (Sometimes 2 times a day). But nothing, no pregnancy ever. I’ve always had pregnancy ‘scares’ but it was always wrong. Does anyone have any advice on what’s going on? Desperate to find somebody who can understand and not just tell me it’s because it’s harder to get pregnant than the movies make it seem

Moving to San Diego in the spring from the central coast. Any recs on places to live (late 30’s with a kid)? Want to be close to restaurants and things to do, but a little too old and tired for gas lamp!

Fun ideas on how to tell parents I’m pregnant virtually?? Would like to do something kinda fun and not just say it

Any advice if you are slow coming back from maternity leave?

I just discovered that Zelda: Ocarina of Time, a game that enchanted me for weeks on end when I was a kid, is ~25mb in size. I honestly can’t believe it—I’ve filed docs in court that are bigger than that. Also, this has nothing to do with biglaw other than that learning how to use emulators is what I’m doing during the tech slowdown. Just beat the Deku Tree!

I generally have a good relationship with my parents, but when it comes to making decisions in my life, big and small, I’m expected to run them by my father. I find this mentality patriarchal and demeaning. I’ll ask for advice when I need it and do value their opinion, but I don’t need my father’s approval to make my own decisions. Any other Asian F experience this?

I recently had my first baby and I’m trying to be as practical as possible, I did not get a bunch of baby stuff I just got the essentials, I think they sell you too much unnecessary things. I do appreciate people showing affection with gifts but feel kids now a day are over gifted. Would it be taken wrong if I suggest that for birthdays and Christmas instead of toys people deposit whatever they were going to spend in my baby’s 529 account?

Baby furniture. What is everyone doing? FTM and trying to figure out if it’s worth investing in very expensive nursery furniture. We were looking at the Natart furniture collection and the Silva collections. These both come in at about $2000-$2400. The furniture is high quality and grows with the child. Alternatively I could go the lower end route at get everything for like $800. Is that wise? I hear horror stories about low quality and paint chipping from the baby teething on the crib.

Naive question: How many yearly billable hours are reasonable for a good balance of work and home. I have a young child and don't want to miss out on important moments. I had one firm state that their yearly quota is 1900 hours and I don't have a frame of reference as to whether this is reasonable or if it means 12 hour days. I am coming from public service so billables are 100% new to me. Any insight is appreciated.

I am going to join a new company in a month. My baby is 1 year old. Being a mother i am afraid how would i cope up but at the same time i am thinking of progressing my career as i am there in my current company for past 6 years and it is a good time to switch (given the market hikes at this time). Any suggestions on how i could manage my new job and mommy life together?

Hi ladies. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and have been suffering from morning sickness all day every day for the last 5 weeks. It’s been extremely difficult staying on top of everything at work (I’m in a very busy practice group at Kirkland) and am wondering if anyone has gone through this and if anything helped. I’ve tried all of the conventional methods (eating small meals, vitamin B6, ginger etc) but nothing has worked 🥺.

Other than salary, what did you negotiate when reviewing job offer? New place doesn’t have as much maternity or healthcare benefits, so I was thinking of starting there assuming salary is in line with what I’m looking for

New baby arriving soon and big brother will be 18 mo. Wondering if I should stop sending him to activities for a month or two when baby arrives to avoid germs? Thoughts?

Mamas with more than one kid, what’s the age gap between your children? And now that you’ve experienced it, do you think a different age gap would have been better?
I had my first a few months ago, and while I was sure I’d be one and done, the maternal feeling is now on overdrive 🙃 I’m wondering what would be a good time to try for a second.
I am 38, and the first baby came after two miscarriages so my chances are not great (especially chances of a planned age gap) But it doesn’t hurt to hope 😊

Perimenopause - how do I know if it’s happening? My period is a no show this month and I feel like I’m in eternal PMS. And no, not pregnant.

If you went part-time, was there any impact on your benefits? My firm doesn’t have a part-time policy but a partner proposed that I do that rather than leave while pursuing a project for 1-2 years. I’m considering having baby number 2 and I’m not sure whether my leave would be impacted.

Pregnant with my first baby and I’m having the WORST sciatic nerve pain. I had a back injury with nerve damage when I was in my early 20s and at 18 weeks pregnant, it’s almost unbearable. I’ve increased my prenatal workouts like yoga, Pilates and walking because my doctor said that helps but it’s not helping. Any advice from the momma fishes? 🙏🏻

Losing my mind. 3 week old won’t stop crying. Spouse and I are going insane. Our LO barely sleeps for more than an hour and when she’s awake she’s basically always crying. At my wits end.

Hello l! What is the role of senior analysts in HCL customer advocacy groups.

Looking to grow my practice by acquisition I am CFP,CPA,MBA located in Central PA. Please let me know if you are interested in talking about your succession plan. Thanks!!

Anybody know average salary range for a Director in KPMG Cyber practice? What about total compensation?

How would I make my Big4 experience attractive for non-audit positions outside of my company and other service lines within my firm?

How long after submitting application materials to a firm does it typically take to get an interview request? What’s considered a “normal” waiting period?

What was discussed in the townhall today

For rest days, do you do HIIT or other conditioning workout or do you just take complete rest?

Who else is at the Illinois alumni event

Help! I’m a Strategist at a small shop and have been slowly given more copywriting projects. I’m a decent writer but not great. Already read Hey Whipple. Any other advise for getting better?

Currently about to graduate in spring 2023 with a masters in computer science and looking to secure full time roles as entry level security engineer or analyst. I’m an international student and current economy trends seem very risky. Been spending time solving security challenges on try hack me and hack the box apart from having Co-op and internship experience. Any referrals or advice on how to get through this period? I’d like to strengthen my profile for these roles while my search continues

Over 5 years of experience in secondary research and CDD projects including with Middle East clients. Any openings with your firms?

anyone apply to the recent CFTC NYC posting? any movement?

Anyone have opinions on the Pfizer MBA Summer Associate roles? Looking at Strategy & Consulting, Portfolio & Decision Analytics, Marketing Rotational Program - any experience / thoughts?

TCS or Barclays which company good for Experienced Automation Test Engineer which company should I join?

What is your YOE, position & compensation?

Can anyone relate to working from home and having children at home 24/7 due to mandatory virtual schooling? It seems as if my male colleagues do not understand why I can’t meet the billable hours each month. I haven’t had a paralegal or any admin assistance in 7 months. And one response I received today was “Can’t you just lock them out of your office.” No I can’t. And the firm is making 7k per month revenue off of me but wanting the double my billing.

How to break the phone habit???

I was never a big phone gal (forgetting it at home ignoring it for hours) until COVID. It hit 6 months after my husband lost his dad and he has always been pretty screen dependent. Because shit was heavy and I didn’t want to push (plus I was locked inside with him) I just started echoing his habit of picking up my phone.

I went into private practice this year and I have a TERRIBLE habit of picking up my phone when stressed. I HATE it. (con’t)

Anybody have any recommendations for real estate attorneys in the Bay Area? Looking to have my HOA/condo documents updated (and don't want to use Sirkin).

Just found out i did not pass the bar..any suggestions on how to muster up the confidence to take it again especially while now being full time and I have 2 kids.

Any recommendations on books to read for a small business attorney?

So I just got fired…. And was told I’d get two months severance… I’m in utter shock since I just got back from the hospital. I was told I needed to improve my performance in January and all the check ins I’ve had I was told I’m doing much better and was put on multiple long term projects and then this happened. I’m in shock and idk if 2 months severance is good bad?!? Idk thoughts?

My assistant of 2 years is making mistakes and I have no hiring/firing power (partner does). But having to babysit her and also the partner and spend time to clean up these mistakes while also getting my job done has become unsustainable. I can’t have a firm talk with her because it’s an empty firmness. If I mention it to the partner - he tells me to have a firm talk with her, he doesn’t want to be the bad guy and he doesn’t get how bad it has been for me.

Not a legal question but hoping someone here can help. I have a 2 year old yellow lab which basically means he both sheds a lot and is pretty energetic. Any suggestions on a good couch? Looking for something that can hold up to him jumping on and off of it and is easy to clean but is also comfy (we’re a big movie-night-on-the-couch type of family). Thank you!!

Hi ladies. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and have been suffering from morning sickness all day every day for the last 5 weeks. It’s been extremely difficult staying on top of everything at work (I’m in a very busy practice group at Kirkland) and am wondering if anyone has gone through this and if anything helped. I’ve tried all of the conventional methods (eating small meals, vitamin B6, ginger etc) but nothing has worked 🥺.

If you went part-time, was there any impact on your benefits? My firm doesn’t have a part-time policy but a partner proposed that I do that rather than leave while pursuing a project for 1-2 years. I’m considering having baby number 2 and I’m not sure whether my leave would be impacted.

What type of products are most effective for getting rid of hyperpigmentation and uneven skin tone?

What are your favorite business casual "work uniform" tops? In particular, flowy or slouchy (bad word for a professional setting, but ykwim) tops (vs fitted), which I've always favored, and even moreso post-covid weight gain.

What noise cancellation earplugs do you recommend? I’m back in the office after WFH for over a year and I need it to be quiet when I’m doing research and writing.

Tips on sending cold emails to partners solely based on the fact that they do work you like? What do you typically say? Do you ask for work or like for virtual coffee? Personally, I don’t think virtual coffees are a thing at my firm but idk.

Nylons. Do I really need them? I freaking hate them and they seem dated. But also, my legs are kind of pasty and not amazingly toned. I still want to dump every pair. Thoughts? Reasonable alternatives?

Hubby: What's wrong? You're grumpy.
Me: *senior associate who also handled daycare drop off and pick up today, and gymnastics class while my husband napped from 4pm to 530pm* Nothing is wrong. I'm just tired.
Hubby: FROM WHAT?!

Thoughts and prayers for my husband please.

I have been practicing foe several years now but am still running into a problem of not being able to sleep the night before depositions and hearings. I have tried meditation, visualization techniques, etc to no avail. I don’t want to take sleeping pills because I am worried they will impact my performance the next day. Does anyone experience same and does anyone have any other ideas to help with this issue?

Politics aside anyone really excited and really proud to finally have a woman in a position of power!? Next stop will be president *crossing fingers*

Do any women feel that there is a pattern with balancing the egos and emotional reactions of the males they work with? I am a female senior associate on a partner track at a small firm (25 or less lawyers) and I’m very happy here. I’m the only female in my practice group and it seems like the men (particularly those more at-my-level) constantly have ego issues and problems with their toes being stepped on...

Have anyone had to retake the bar exam? If so, how did your firm deal with it?