How do you all make consulting work with having time for family? Would love to hear advice from young and more seasoned folk. I'm embarking on the search for a SO, so it would be good to have some idea of the best practices 😅

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Outsource whatever you can afford: cleaning, grocery delivery, food prep etc. Line up babysitters and/or family help. You both will need sleep and eliminating effort in cleaning and things like this will help you catch up!

Discuss expectations with your partner ahead of time: do you both have careers? How will finances be split? Who will wake up if you both have work in the morning and baby has a sleepless night?

Do not forget your relationship with your partner when you have kids. Maintain emotional and physical intimacy, carve out the time whenever possible to invest in this aspect. When you lose this, it is very easy to shift to being "roommates/co-parents" for your kids' early years - which isn't great and makes people resentful.

If you are traveling Mon-Thurs, doesn't matter how tired you are on the weekends you owe time to your family. Let your partner sleep in Saturday morning and take the kids out of the house for a few hours (not only do you win credit for giving alone time to your likely exhausted spouse but you also get direct time with the kids to build your bond and special time with them).

Read and learn as much as you can. Do not rely on your spouse to "educate" you on how to feed a baby, developmental milestones, etc. Nothing more annoying than a spouse who is gone half the week and then comes back clueless and needs to be micro managed on the kids' schedule, habits, needs, etc.

GOOD LUCK!

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My spouse and I are both consultants, so we get it. We like to engage each other about our days, talk about what was annoying or good. Even though we haven’t really met each other’s coworkers, we know everyone’s names. Even if I didn’t have a spouse who was in consulting, I think I’d like to do the same because it prevents your job from being this “mystery” where you disappear for 4 days a week. Granted it’s also important to balance work stress with your normal life - don’t let work bother you or stress you out during times marked for relaxing. We tend to shut it all off on at least Saturdays. Kids will be another beast...

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Like anything else, M-TR you work hard, if you wrap up before 11, watch an episode of a tv show and sleep - wrap up early Friday and enjoy weekends together. Not that difficult. There will always be crazy projects where you have less time for each other, but you figure it out on case by case basis.

Kids..... that’s another topic I have no idea about

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It's really challenging. I've a 15 months little girl and I am looking to get out as I don't spend much time with her during the week. It has gotten so bad that she goes to sleep between 11pm-1 am nightly since august) because of work and wife being in school as I have to baby sit usually between 8-9 to 12am and then work until 3-5 am.

Spousal support and understand... is needed to say the least because management and clients are super demanding. I push back in initiatives outside of project work just because it's not sustainable working week days and weekends.

Good luck

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