How to handle your emotions in a less sex ( not no sex), and low quality sex marriage?

It's emotionally depressing for me when we don't make out, getting ugly thoughts of breaking up.

Although I also do understand this should not be the ground for destroying the family, but the lack of it creates a vacuum in me.

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Try couples therapy, or one that especially focuses on sex therapy

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I second couples therapy and/or sex therapy. Have you expressed your emotions and feelings about sex in your marriage with your spouse?

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This is the sort of the thing that requires ongoing communication about you and your spouse’s sexual needs so you can find common ground.

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Any websites that you recommend for sex therapy?? I work with smaller company so no corporate programs.

Try medication to lift the sex drive. Paying for blue pill is cheaper than breaking up the marriage just for sex.

What do you mean emotion? Is there something between you two that hasn't been resolved?

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Are you the one having trouble saying yes to sex or your partner? My wife’s depression really causes issues with her sex drive at times and I completely understand where you are coming from.

My wife. I am always ready :)

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