How do you ask someone to be a mentor to you? Ive identified the person I’d like to mentor me but I don’t know how to move the relationship into an active mentoring relationship (we currently have a casual relationship where I check in once in a while)

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You do exactly what you’re doing. Keep checking in. Ask questions. Help where you can. Continue getting to know each other. I’d vomit a bit inside if someone asked me to mentor them rather than just staying connected.

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Do not get down on one knee and ask them to be you're mentor. Just keep asking them questions and allow them to mentor you.

Having an official "mentor-mentee" relationship complicates things.

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People don’t really have that many ideas about what to do as a “mentor”. What’s helpful is when you go to them with specific mentor type questions and then they’re probably happy to give their thoughts and advice, or if you want a referral somewhere maybe use their connections on your behalf - that way you kind of organically move it to a more “mentor” role, e.g., “hey I was thinking of doing/joining/attending XYZ and would love to pick your brain about it if you have some time next week?”. But if you’re expecting them to come up with a plan for an informal and voluntary relationship that’s probably not going to work.

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