How do you continue with work as usual when it seems like the rest of your life is falling apart? I feel like I’m spiraling and just want to quit everything and drive somewhere far away to start over. I have a call with a partner soon and not sure if my usually good at faking enthusiasm self will be able to pull through on this one.

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Same. That's all I have.

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Take it one day at a time until it gets better. It’s tough.

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I am sorry to hear- been there. Take some time off if you can. Otherwise just start with doing the minimum to get by and build from there. Be gentle with yourself and acknowledge the milestone of simply getting though another day. You are not alone!

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I would really appreciate someone on my team sharing that with me. It lets me know that they as a human need help that I might be able to help them find and let’s me know that I need to pay closer attention to stuff they are working on so they we don’t have a problem (“we” because I’m responsible for it all and because I wouldn’t want someone’s personal issues to affect their professional life). Any firm of decent size should be equipped to help with something like this.

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No idea how to help but I am so sorry to hear about this and wishing you all the best. I just feel like it will reflect badly if you tell the partner what the problem is.

I can’t explain how much I relate to this. Honestly, I used (read:use) work as an escape from and an excuse not to have to deal with the real stuff. It’s probably super unhealthy, but it’s easier to write a brief or take an extra deposition than it is to deal with some personal issues. I eventually sort of unloaded on a partner I really trust, who has shared personal stuff with me, and I know she’s still in my corner. As cynical as it sounds, though, you need to pick someone you not only trust, but also someone that would be put in a tough spot if you quit. Business is business. Like someone else said, take it one day at a time, take a day or two off if you can. But definitely find someone to talk to; partner, friend, therapist, anyone. Take care.

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I don't know why this is the case and maybe it's just my agency but it seems like the people who are most eager to send out "internal trend email digests" be it cultural trends, social media changes, creative inspiration or whatever always seem to be people who are grossly failing in the primary role they were hired for.

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On a fast track for promotion, and also have a good standing/reputation already within my MM bank so far. I also have a complicated visa situation that my bank is handling. Not closed off but not really set on PE or anything. Is it still worth starting fresh and likely a delayed promo at an EB?

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When you get back to the office after 9 days away, have that vacation glow, and the first thing your PM says to you is, “welcome back, this week is going to suuuuuck!!”

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Do you tell recruiters your actual salary when they ask or go a bit higher? Feel like mine is below market

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