How do you control your emotions during an argument at work? Are there tips or techniques you use to gain an edge?

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Ideally, I avoid getting into arguments in the first place. You have to choose your battles and the best battles are the ones you don't fight. But if it's inevitable, I just try to have my facts in order and make whatever case I have. If it's an argument like should be do A or B, I'll advocate for my preferred position. The only technique I try to use is to be polite, that tends to disarm some people. They expect you to get rude, and if you come off like a character in a P.G. Wodehouse story they don't know how to handle it.

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Haha well said! I think it’s the best choice to not have to engage but sometimes
When you don’t have a choice the strategies you mentioned are definitely good ones to consider employing

If I find myself in one I detach and just present facts. If I don’t have any I just allow them to blow over me and excuse myself from the argument at the first opportunity “ah yes I see what you are saying.” “Thanks I’ll follow up with you later”

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The great detachment strategy! Ah yes! I do employ those from time to time as well and they work like a charm

I usually take a moment to breathe deeply and collect my thoughts before responding. This can help me stay calm and avoid reacting impulsively.

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Good technique! I think breathing is really important to calm the nerves and gather your thoughts 💭

Take a deep breath

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This is important! I recently practiced breathing exercises that I think helped with this

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