How do you deal with a functional alcoholic parent who does not want to accept their addiction?

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After losing a parent to it, I wish I had done more. Follow your gut. Godspeed.

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Short story - you don't.

And of course, it's much more complicated than that, but at the end of the day, that's what it comes down to. Set boundaries, enforce them, don't enable your parent to continue to make bad choices by rewarding them with your relationship.

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Pray

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I’ve seen others find peace through Al Anon.

ACA meetings have also helped

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