How do you deal with a new manager sending passive aggressive messages on Teams (e.g. asking rhetoric question sinstead of saying what he expects, "...", "well do xyz")
He is French so it might also be a cultural thing?

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Reading your post makes me think about one of my past experiences with a French manager🤣 seems to be cultural

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Joke aside, I hate people talking to me like that I am not a robot, but a human with feeling. To me it’s really not ok

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Honestly I addressed it with a couple of other things (all on the aggressive way of speaking) & it backfired. He finds everything to prove the problem was me like I should ask questions in a better way, I should think more before asking a question, etc. What I would advise you is 1) if the project is short, don’t say it and do like everything is fine. I know it’s super hard but think it’s only a couple of week & as silly as it seems what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. This is valid unless you think the person can totally change 2) if it’s a longer project, well you are not going to kill your mental health for this person. Tell him/her during feedback session that sometimes you feel bad when comments/answers are too direct. See it how it goes, if no change ask to roll off & go to another project!

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He’s probably hoping you think it through

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That’s what a manager does, help you think, not directly give you answers/solutions. You could have replied that you were not familiar with X and thanks for helping you make the connection.

Yeah, that may be just him. I’ve studied the language and culture for years, and in the country often; and mostly, people are direct AF. When I get passive aggressive stuff I just ignore it or ask frankly, to clarify what are we looking to do?

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My boyfriend is French and this has also been my experience. They’re just extremely direct and it can really come off as rude/harsh.

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Sounds like my manager who is actually clueless about everything so every question is answered with a question. Idk if yours is being snarky or just doesnt know wtf hes doing.

Shes nice but incompetent af.

Maybe I’m French, I should do my DNA test 😂

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