How do you deal with constant ghosting in NYC dating? I’ve gotten ghosted after date 1/2/3/4 at this point, I’m beginning to think ill be ghosted on my wedding day too. It’s really disheartening.

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I suggest taking some PTO from dating. It was also really disheartening for me when it was one after the other and stepping back from it for a bit helped me depersonalize it

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NYC dating is ruthless because everyone thinks everyone else is juggling a lot of options, so they look for a lot of options. A lot of people also have the mentality to date for experience instead of looking for long-term.

We also live in the age of “icks” where the tiniest thing automatically disqualifies you. As you get older it’ll get better.

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I’m older (mid-30s), it’s worse for me :(

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At least you are getting dates

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You ghost them before they ghost you, so that you can perpetuate the cycle of modern online dating in NYC.

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Someone said this to me shortly before I met my SO: ghosting is much nicer than explaining before it starts to get serious.

If it was month 4 not date 4. That’s another thing. Have fun until then.

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Another reason for ghosting is that people just don't have the nerve to offer feedback or they are trying not to hurt anyone's feelings and so they imagine to themselves that ignoring you is somehow a better option which of course it isn't.

But it does happen to everyone it's not just you so maybe there's at least comfort you can take from that.

Dating a lot can be exhausting and I have found that I need to do it in spurts. Doing a bunch of dates and at some point we're none of them work out, I have to just take a break from it all.

It is what it is but you'll never meet anyone if you don't at least try so...back on the horse eventually.

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Dating in nyc is just rough in general. If you feel as thought it’s stressing your mental health then it’s okay to take a break once in awhile from it.

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But have you gotten ghosted in the middle of a second or third date?

Ghosting is the new normal, just consider it like a recruiting not responding

I won't ghost you

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