How do you deal with friends that only talk to you when they need help/someone to listen to their problems, but otherwise act like you either don't exist or just give short, non-engaging responses to

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Cut them out of your life! I had friends like this, who would call to talk about their problems and their issues but ask nothing about me. Even if I brought up something that’s been bothering me, it’d be brushed aside as if it isn’t important. I cut them out of my life and I’m much happier now.

Nothing is wrong with you, your friends are being jerks here!

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Yup, I would go along the way D1 here said. I ignored their calls, saying I’ll talk later or that I have a some crisis going on. They never reached out or asked how I was doing , kinda confirming that I don’t need them in my life. They latched onto other people and I made new friends 😊

You can establish boundaries with these selfish inconsiderate people by not allowing them access to you immediately or helping them every time they need you Ex- “I’m too busy to talk right now. Maybe in a few weeks when things calm down for me?” “Sorry, I can’t help you with this. [Insert New Subject Here About Your Life].”

The end result will be either one of two outcomes...1) They will go away on their own and bug someone else or 2) ask you about your life bc you have been busy/unreachable and during that time they realize they have been a crappy friend

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Exactly!

your messages. I feel like is there something wrong with me or is that person just is being a jerk?

I cut them out and feel so much better and relieved without them lol

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