How do you deal with parents who are Christian fanatics? They’re very loving, and I am Christian too, but not to the point where I want to impose my beliefs on others. They’re ~50 and I am in my early 20s. Great relationship now but strained if I ever bring up politics.

I feel close to them but plan to never bring up I’m bi. I feel like I have to hide parts of myself to live harmoniously with them.

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I went through something similar. I came out in high school, and my parents sent me to Christian conversion therapy. It was brutal. I resorted to hiding my identity and it became something we never talked about. They eventually got over it, but honestly I haven’t. I still love them though, because they’re more than this mistake.

It’s incredibly complicated. You’re asking them to accept you as they are, and they, in a way, are demanding the same of you. It’s pointless to argue about “right” and “wrong” here because this is emotional territory.

I’m angry and hurt about how my parents rejected me and made me endure terrible “therapy,” but I try to direct my feelings toward the institutions and culture that led them to do that, rather than toward my parents. You can’t replace your parents, and you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

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Perfect description, MPM1. Thanks for understanding this.

My SO falls in that category too and I am not a Christian. She literally tries to invite all our friends to her church.
If there is a solution, please share

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Genuine question: why are you or she with people who don't share your beliefs? Doesn't it complicate things?

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I’m also a believer but was raised my two gay dads. I am a firm believer in the gospel redemptive story, but also understand that dogmatic principles we place above loving others often points people away from that story as opposed to towards it

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Absolutely. Dialogue builds a friendship that helps steer. Preachy pushes away constantly

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Close to the same boat here, although I'm straight so I probably have it easier. I feel like one of the hardest parts of this is that dating is tricky.

I almost want to put all this on my dating profile so that I can find someone in a similar situation, because it would be nice to not have to explain how traditionally religious and quite one-sided political my parents are

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Yup, I wonder how my future spouse is going to see it.

Honestly just be you. 95% chance your parents will get over it. Yes, my parents are also fanatics. They can pray all they want, but their love will be the face they show unless they are psychopaths.

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