How do you deal with someone who talks too much and drains your energy?

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i will not work on weekends and i will not work extra extra hours until they promote me. they can suck it tbh


If we’re in person, I ask probing questions.

If they’re texting or DMing, I ignore until I have energy to reply.


I married her 😢... She still didn't shut up


I’d love to tell you, but I have a really urgent deliverable to get out the door. Maybe catch up next week.


Walk away


My mom is like this so I limit contact. I wait to have calls when I have the mental energy for them and then exit with an excuse when my energy is zapped. I sometimes just let her prattle on but do something else in the background.


I simply start talking more


Or mimic them



I normally just tell them, hey listen, I don't really care about this topic. Maybe talk to someone else who does. This happened to me after many arguments about how I didn't want to listen to their opinion about said topic that I never cared for.

If the conversation makes you feel brain dead, I normally just smile and listen. But then I don't initiate hangouts ever. If they call about this stuff, I normally can only handle so much and then say I have other things to do.


In friendships, I’m not really a good match for that personality type. I would just listen and find a respectful ways to make an exit.

Is it this guy?

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You don’t,

I don’t know you, who you’re interacting with, or what your relationship with them is… but usually you can either grow your capacity to socialize or learn to set boundaries.

Sometimes growing your capacity for others involves spending less energy on some people and focusing your attention more on someone else. Other times it may involve self-work. It takes a while though.

In terms of setting boundaries, you may want to set expectations at the beginning of a conversation before the other person goes into a rant. It’s not a great situation when someone rambles on and expends a lot of energy with their story and then the other person can’t muster much of a response.

Not talk to that person

Put them on mute 😬

Tune them out. Watch the tv behind them, don’t make eye contact (ie look at your food, phone, other people, etc), or just talk over them lol gets worse when you have kids that don’t shut tf up

I had a coworker that would talk my ear off first thing in the morning. I eventually told her that I’m not a talker like that and definitely not first thing in the morning. Give me to the double digits before you start talking about non work things.

Or I simply ignore them. I have this thing I do with my face where it’s like I’m not even paying attention. Folks usually move on if you do it enough.

Duct tape their mouth.

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