How do you deal with toxic family?

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Bild a great wall round ur availabilitee
No see, no problemm
Fam is fam but at the end of de day, ur life is ur life

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1. Therapy and lots of it
2. Moving 1500 miles away
3. Setting boundaries. Cannot be alone with my kids and we stay in a hotel when we visit. When my mom starts to guilt trip during a phone call, I politely end the conversation. Don’t accept financial gifts, as those are weaponized against me. Boundaries are very specific to the situation.
4. Talk to my partner when I have negative feelings or recall a repressed memory.

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2 really resonates with me… moved as far away on the continental US as I could lol

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You deal with them with boundaries and distance

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I don’t. Set boundaries. When broken, cut them off.

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ACOA support group meetings. It’s for adult children of alcoholics or dysfunctional families.

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I didn’t go for the longest time because my parents were not active alcoholics. I was pleasantly surprised how many people in the meetings come from dysfunctional families!

Distance

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Amazing thing about narcissistic parents: Once you move away they never visit!

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need more context

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HRM is right. u need distance

Be more toxic

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using serum

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Therapy. Codependents Anonymous.

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Estrangement and then therapy to fix the damage

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This has been my solution with my in-laws. I’ve decided to go no contact and am in therapy to deal with what they’ve put me through. A silver lining!

Moving away helps a lot. Now I plan to get therapy and focus on myself

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Don't speak to them

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I moved across country. One of the best decisions I ever made. The issue is a sibling. It’s sad to me but oh well. Still regularly speak with my parents and other sibling by phone and they visit.

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When none of the boundaries were sufficient, I blocked my toxic sibling and went no contact.

Hazmat suit

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Distance

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Cut them off and move across the country 🙃

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Quarantine

Let the punishment for the crime.

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