How do you get over someone you never dated? I know this person is not right for me but I can’t get it off my head

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I’m in the same boat OP! Breaks my heart every time I see him. Group hug 🫂

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It’s natural. You don’t have to have dated someone to feel a bit sad / heart broken over them.

Distance yourself a bit and prioritize yourself over them.

Remind yourself of your great qualities whenever you’re feeling down and remember that you’ll find someone else that’s compatible :)

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It's perfectly normal and just needs some time and patience. Forgive yourself, try to understand your feelings and let them happen, and indulge a few non-destructive pleasures (favorite movies you haven't seen in a few years are great).

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You have a bad case of one-itis. Get yourself back out there and you'll remember how big the world is

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These type of people are hard to forget but you need to listen to your mind instead of heart and use your time wisely.

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Time will heal everything. But till then, make a list of their negative qualities. That really helps. Also keep yourself busy.

Date someone else

Fir kya dikkat?

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lol they won’t date you. So laugh or cry, learn to accept it.

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