how do you guys handle your struggle with coworkers? I'm a child of alcoholism and abuse, and I've always been a pretty heavy drinker myself. Well, this last year has been a real doozy for me, and...

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You will realize, upon sobriety, how much more you have to do especially as an SM with a great career. Once I sobered up I couldn’t imagine how I found hours a day to just chill and drink...

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Thank you, kind strangers! I was a part of ala-teen in my younger years and sorta lost touch with it when I went to college. I'm actively searching for meetings I can work into my schedule, and planning out how I will handle the next big company event. As a leader, I know my behaviors are under a microscope; people notice what I do and I want to show up as my best self at these functions. For now, all I can say is I'm One day sober, and I will work my ass off to get to a day 2.

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I echo the recommendations to find a meeting to attend. I’ll add that given your situation, you may find a lot of relief, insight, and fellowship in both AA meetings and Al-Anon.

For me, I’ve come to realize that my sobriety is far more important than just about everything else in life (because without it, I’m likely to lose or ruin everything good I have). AA will give you the tools, but the keys for me have been just taking it one day at a time, and to go to as many meetings as I can reasonably make given my schedule.

A non-alcoholic literally can’t comprehend the implications of having just a single drink (which for me usually meant bingeing and disaster). It’s good to have a few excuses in your pocket to side-step the typical comments and peer pressure. Things like, “im on antibiotics”, or “I developed an allergy”, or “i’m trying to be healthy”. The best option is to avoid the situations where people continue the drinks after dinner. If all else fails you can order a club soda with lime. :)

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You’re doing a great job so far. Next step is to find a meeting and attend it. That way you have a space to share and hear others who are also in a similar position. Wish you the very best. I am sure you will get through this

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You owe no one an explanation. People choose sobriety for different reasons and at different times. Few people will press the issue but if they do, I’ve found “I’m not drinking right now for health reasons” is enough to get a back down. (Health is vague and could be anything from addiction and mental health to pregnancy, diet, or fitness.)

I also agree with the advice above to either find a meeting to attend or - if that isn’t your thing - plug in with an online coaching group.

You’ve got this!

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I would just dont project ie worry about explaining it in the future answers will come to you maybe it is that you say you are trying a healthy kick or something like that. do what you need to do )find a meeting) and go from there. i have spent a lot of energy trying to solve problems that have never materialized...

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I'm starting to realize I have a problem. I want to get help and make a change, but am a bit worried about how to handle the major swing in my choice to go from life of the party to fully sober. I know don't want to backslide, but I don't really want to draw attention to it at work. I'm apprehensive to discussing my sobriety with acquaintances and colleagues. Any suggestions?

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