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How do you guys take care of your parents back home . I am a single child living in USA . I don’t want to go back and it is getting tougher day by day .

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I fully empathize with you, my husband is from India and I was born in the US and we live in the US and my parents are just 40 minutes away. I’ve watched him struggle with this for the past 3/4 years. He’s an only child and is very close with his family. Especially with the pandemic and visa related issues regarding travel he hasn’t seen his family all year, he normally visits for 3 weeks once per year and his mom usually comes once as well. To be frank, as someone who watches someone they lovw struggle with this, you really need to assess what you can live with or not. I can being away from his family and the guilt of them aging and him being an only child actually means a large piece of him is always lacking or missing. I cannot imagine what that feels like. We’ve discussed it countless times and I truly don’t think it’s something that just gets better over time, it depends what you want and need in your life. As for my husband I just made it a point to say I’ll just move there with him in a few years if need be cause for me it doesn’t really matter. I have a luxury of having an older sibling who lives close to my parents who would be there for emergent needs and then we can always shuffle them back and forth. He does not. It’s good you’re thinking abbot this now. Don’t ignore it or else it will put you in a real tight spot later.

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He’s the best :) thank you

My husband and I both don’t have siblings and we decided it’s the best to go back. We’re planning to this year ☹️

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I make video call twice a day, ensure anything needed is ordered before they need. You can’t replace being there in person by any amount of money but we can make life more comfortable. I wish to move my parents here or move back to India if situation demands it

Facetime + hired help + equipped them with tools to become independent (for example, taught my mom how to use delivery apps)

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I know. This keeps me up at night

I wish more could think like you C2

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