How do you handle travel and the mom guilt that comes with it? My child is 3 and I couldn't make any more excuses. I had to travel for an engagement and I have cried every evening during our skype/facetime calls. Please tell me I am not alone.

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You are not alone. I found being away to be heartbreaking, although it did get easier (I only traveled 1-2 days a week). On the plus side, my now-grown children are terrific and my travel/work schedule did not seem to do harm. We have a great and close relationship. I got some great advice - if you are miserable (working or not working), then your children will pick up on this. If you are happy with the balance you have (assuming you are still spending quality time with them), then they will thrive. Deep breathes - and figure out if your feelings of misery are short or long term and then you can decide if you need to make a change. You got this!

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I get anxiety a few days before I have leave. It’s to the point of feeling like I need to throw up. I also try to take the latest flight out and the first flight back in. My son is 6 and my daughter is 2. It’s never gotten easier.

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@OP & K1, my heart goes out to you both.That literally sounds Horrible. Life is too short. If you have a Slalom Office where you live I HIGHLY recommend you submit your resume immediately. LMK if you wanna talk via burner.

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Impressed that you made it three years w escaping travel. How?? It’s never easy but helps to know it’s limited and if you have someone you trust at home taking care of them

It hasn't gotten easier for me either - in fact, it's only gotten more difficult (son is now 20 months). I constantly contemplate if I'm going to regret missing out on so much - regularly want to throw the towel in

I feel like there’s a difficult spot around 2-3 years of age where they know you are gone but they can’t totally process why or that you can’t just come back at night.
It did get easier for me (youngest now 4). One thing that did help - I switched to FaceTiming right after school or in the AM because evenings everyone was tired and cranky.
You aren’t alone. It is hard - hang in there.

Honestly the more you do it the easier it gets I don't ever make excuses and I make sure my child understands that mommy has a job and mommy has to go to work just like daddy. Be strong

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