How do you have a satisfying big law career as an associate? How do you actually handle stress? Have a nanny and cleaning lady, yet still stressed and have no time for myself. Help! Want to make this work.

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My partner decided to stay home and has become Mr. Mom. He cooks, cleans, does school, gardens, plays dates, doctor's appointments, laundry, everything. I get to come in like a “dad” and only do the absolute bare minimum like ask the kids how their day was and play with them right before bedtime and when that happened, it all became manageable. But to me I was stretched way to thin before.

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I'm in a same boat right now. Work from home, but am too busy to see the kids until bedtime. Definitely am realizing no amount of money is worth this.

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Satisfaction is subjective. You will be satisfied as an associate if you value money above all else. That’s about it.

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Should also mention that husband has a demanding and stressful job, as well. 😫

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