How do you know that this is your person? Can you choose someone even though your ideals, philosophies, and lifestyle are very different or are you essentially settling?

Am I tripping? Everyone loves calling my daughter (2 months) "lil chocolate drop" or "look at all that chocolate". I love my daughter's complexion, not only because it's mine, but because it's beautiful. However, I can't help but feeling like ppl "other" or make it weird by avoiding saying dark. Calling her dark is acceptable and appreciated. I know "chocolate" comes from a place of affection, but I just can't embrace it 💯.

How common are prenups in UK among middle-class? I'm thinking of asking my SO for one but I worry it would be viewed by anyone else as a one foot-out-the-door kinda situation. I'm just trying to be safe with little I have, seeing my friends' marriages.

Anybody here a single mother by choice? Would love to chat.

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

Has anyone found roles in Big 4 or industry that allowed more work life balance when their kids were young without damaging future career trajectory? I'm a partner with young kids and feel like I'm missing out on too much of their lives. Wishful, but my dream job would have a lighter workload in terms of time and pressure for the next ~5 years, but not set me back too much (or at all) when the kids are older and tired of me in a few years and I'm ready to be back at work full force.

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

Not sober currently. But think about it.
What happened to all your mates when you stopped? Did they dump you (because you make them feel guilty for drinking)? And what if your wife drinks too?

Does anyone have experience or know of someone who went on a FWA (part-time) but didn't have kids? I'm unmarried and no kids but considering a move to 30 or so hrs/week for my sanity.

30F here and have no BFF type girl friends. Anyone else?

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

I’m irritated ALL the time and it’s ruining my relationship. What’s wrong with me? lol should I just start smoking weed or get on an anti depressant?

One of my friends has been given a choice, to work with an extremely outrageous target or to leave the firm. If he chooses to stay, he will be bound to serve a total time of 6 months. And if he refuses, tomorrow will be his last day, what can I suggest to him?

It's a critical decision and he is overwhelmed by this sudden obstacle. Any leads would be helpful.

My SO will put me on the spot sometimes (he is an extrovert) and say just talk to me (it will just be us two). He generally talks a lot and me so much. The second he says that my mind goes blank and for the life of me I can't remember anything to talk about. It's like stage fright. Is this normal? Anyone else experience this?

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

I have been married for 3 years. We have been trying to have a baby and found out my husband is shooting blanks and requires surgery to possibly resolve that. Recovery is 4 weeks and he refused. He is also not open to adopting or fostering or using someone else’s sperm. What do I do now?

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

How to handle your own procrastination? Any tips/advice?

Wondering if anyone has had experience with the tech excellence program at Booz Allen? I was hired a month ago in commercial consulting and now they are asking me to do the tech excellence program. I read some pretty bad things about it and am pretty confused

Does anyone here work at Cover Whale Insurance? They are a wholesale company and I’m wondering what the culture is like since it is a fairly new but quickly growing company.

What is a standard raise %? I’m about to ask for my first raise and I want to walk in confidently with a number. I’ve been leading my team well above my title for a year and know I deserve it.

What are effective ways to ensure your team feels content within the workplace? There is a rise of many people feeling undervalued and not cared for as an employee. I would like to change that. No matter the job, no one should feel less than.

I hate my life. I'm on the last chapter of FAR and it's my last exam...I hate this shit...all for something we are expected to get not something prestigious...excuse my petty rant.

Hi,
Joining SAP labs, Bengaluru on 8th of August.
Looking for a share of accommodation. Female preferred.
Thank you..

Hi fishes..is it worth joining a company as a software engineer while my current designation is senior software engineer? Company is product based , using latest tech stack and providing wfh.

Yoe-5.7 yrs
CTC offered by company - 28lpa

I am working in Capgemini past 2.5 yrs in Power Bi domain and total i have 5 yrs of exp in IT industry. But my salary is same as my experience 5 LPA. I know i am getting underpaid. If anyone can refer me help me out ...i can give him my first salary... I am at a high debt.

Curious how compensation works for counsel at top-tier law firms. How much do counsel make? Is it relatively set/lockstep salary, or does it vary significantly based on hours? Do counsel have hours requirements?

I have seen that Some people are seriously demeaning Publicis Sapient looks like they have a personal grudge. I would suggest to connect with your HR and manager in PS or look for right people on LinkedIn.

Looking for UI/UX Designer role. Fresher with M.DES . Internship Experience - 1 year. Ready to join immediately. Preferable location : Bangalore. Please reach out in case of any openings.

Anybody work for EY NZ? Realize borders are closed at the moment but my wife and I have been researching a move to NZ for years now. I'm a Micrsoft Biz Apps/Dynamics Developer in the US. Doing an internal transfer would be my the easiest way to move so just wondering if anybody had any insights into the process.

What is AMPB Recovery and in what conditions it is recoverable

Hi guys,
Currently I'm senior operations executive in infy, i got 2 offer. 1.cognizant - program Analyst with 7.2lpa and 2. Amdocs - functional test engineer with 8.8lpa.
I'm from tamilnadu, CTS Is chennai and amdocs is pune.
Can u suggest me which is good ??

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

Dang, sorry I meant to comment on the post!

Anyone willing to give a referral for IBM and Deloitte canada, I am a new grad and looking to start my career in consulting

Salam brothers and sisters, I need help approaching a certain situation.

I'm in the early stages of talking to a girl and we really like each other. It's taken a long time to find this "click" with someone. And as much as I hate the term "halal haram ratio", I would say we're pretty similar (I.e only eating halal, not drinking, fasting, family values, etc.)

However, there is one specific thing that bothers me....... (cont)

Hello! Would anyone at Deloitte be willing to look over my CV and possibly refer me for a role in Dublin? (I’m currently based in London)

What strategies do you have for praying salaah on time while at work? How do you ensure your meetings don't go over salaah time especially when you don't have control of your schedule?

Shia - Sunni marriages?

Anyone talk to a Muslim therapist? Muslim matters because I’d like to talk about marital issues, and not sure others will get the religious context. NYC preferred. TIA!

31 F based in Chicago. Does anyone want to talk?

There’s no excuse that by the age of 25 you have never tried therapy. I’m speaking directly to the demographic in this group who I’m sure over 95% of people in here are earning 6 figures. Key word: TRY. I understand it’s not for everyone but to have never even attempted seeking therapy is a injustice to yourself and the people around you.

Does anyone know a Shariah compliant mutual fund that won't violate Independence policies?

After I eat sehri, I just want to lay down while my stomach looks like a mountain. Then I become so lazy to get up for fajr. Shaitan is locked up, it feels like I’m the shaitan, don’t wanna get up ...

Any tips for having to attend a team lunch and a separate happy hour while fasting? Outside of Ramadan happy hours aren’t awkward bc I’ll just drink soda or something. However, now do I just sit there and stare at them when they are drinking/munching on their lunch ? 😂

Salaams!

Anyone hiring Program Managers (Technical or Non-Technical) or Engagement Managers? Currently with Big 4. Please let me know!

YOE: 6-7
Location: Washington DC area

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