How do you know when you’re ready to commit to a person after seeing them for some time?

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My honest advice is if you don’t instinctually know, then don’t do it. You can think about the when and what, but the why should feel like any natural decision.

That said:
If you see them for more than 7 years and there is an expectation for marriage and you have no interest commitment , that’s your friend, not your to be spouse.

If you are feeling pressured to get married by your partner think about how you would ideally want to live and how marriage to this person would affect that.

Lastly, in some states there is common law marriage where they can get half your stuff anyways, so it may just be making something more official that already exists.

And in case I missed it and you are just talking about dating, if you don’t feel like they make you a better person, and you don’t feel enamored with them. They are probably just your warm up until you find someone better.

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