How do you know you feel safe around someone? A potential SO. How do you know?

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It’s when whatever makes you question safety in the first place…imagine others not experiencing that. Personally its when I can go about my day/week or engage with others. When I can do that and not worry about harm/betrayal/lies, it feels like that. A calm existence. If anything raises the red flag, trust it. If there are a lot of red flags, seek help, trust yourself.

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You have to trust your gut. It never fails. You don’t need a reason to leave. Just leave. Be that person on this one. Leave, delete, block, be cautious, then move on. Repeat every damn time. Trust yourself and love yourself. DM me any time.

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Can you elaborate what do you mean by feel safe? Like you feel safe to share your secrets ?

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What I mean by safe is being able to be yourself, being able to feel like home with that person, feeling like all your past trials were worth it in hindsight since you met the one. And thanks for asking this question because it means different things to different people. So I was curious. By safe safe I mean subjectively, emotionally safe etc

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This question is the definition of “if you know you know”

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Have you ever felt safe around a SO?

How does the current one compare to that?

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I think you need to find a way to be comfortable with yourself, your past, your values, etc., that you’re not fearful of judgment from others. Then you can approach safety as a lived experience, rather than something you’re afraid of messing up.

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When I was feeling deeply insecure about something and was worrying about my partners reaction and realized I could just talk to him about it because I actually wasn't worried about his reaction at all. I knew that it would be positive and supportive no matter what.

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I just knew with my husband, within a few dates. But part of knowing I was safe with him was feeling at peace with who I am. I’m not for everyone - I accepted that and learned to love myself (good and bad things) - and then met my husband.

Physically, he never made me feel unsafe. He knows I have some past trauma and has always been intentional about how he physically moves.

Emotionally, he never gives me any reason to question him or his fidelity.

He’s just my favorite person to be around, and I feel like he loves me for who I am, no questions asked.

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For me it’s about feeling at ease and not having to worry about every little insecurity that I have.

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