How do you ladies do it all? My SO and I are both working from home which I love. But I feel like at home I have to be both work me and emotional caring home me. FE, my SO had a bad day and he could log off early at 3:30 but I still had things to get done before 5/6. I wanted to make him feel better so I too left work early but also the responsibility of getting my work done on time. Do any of you also make this sacrifice while WFH? It’s not every day but some days it’s a struggle to balance

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I bet he was not expecting you to do anything, and I would caution against training him that you'll drop everything to comfort him/make him feel better because he'll start to expect it.

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So… I don’t have this problem at all. If I have work to do I hide out in my office. Sometimes if I’m too lazy to entertain the dog I pretend to work while watching Netflix.

Is this behavior something your spouse requests? “Honey I had a bad day make me feel better?” If so a discussion on how it impacts your work negatively needs to happen.

If it’s something you’re doing out of guilt my only advice is - be selfish. My friends are all amazed at what an active father and husband my spouse is. It’s because I’m selfish.

Also - I do things for him too I was just pulling examples of when I am lazy or also not feeling 100%!

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I love this D1! Hope to become more like you!

I’m the same as you OP and I’m honestly over at how much caring for everyone + working in consulting has exhausted me. For example I put so much energy in my work and partner that I don’t take time for myself and at times for my friends. Same as you, I love being a caring person but I’ve also realized that doing it to the extent I’m doing it now is not serving me anymore. Ive started going back to Therapy for it - it’s a long journey but I’m taking baby steps to be more selfish and uphold my boundaries :)

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We’ve got two kids so I am rarely front and center…. I am the one taking care of everyone else. So yes I can 100% relate to having trouble balancing while working from home.
Idk if you have kids but the guilt and pressure go way up after kids and it’s unfortunate that as someone else said, we must be “selfish” to do what we need, whether for work or our personal selves.
For example, I have my first vacation planned with my husband since we had our second kid. Been years since just us have gone away from the kids for more than a day. We have 5 days. But now it’s changed to 4 days so my husband and his FIL can built the kids a playset. I cried. And everyone said “but the kids will love it, but you’ll love seeing the kids happy, but but but”. Not a single f’ing person said “oh that sucks to have a full day of your short once every three years vacation taken away, or let’s find another day to do the playset.” It doesn’t matter than I’m breaking down because I desperately need this time. And it’s “selfish” of me to want that time and be sad to give it away to the kids.

Sorry for the rant. But set your boundaries now. Stand up for yourself. You can finish your work day with your door shut and headphones in, and after work you can bring him a beer and play a board game…whatever makes him relax. But put yourself first, because no one else will

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His mother is a stay at home mom so I’m sure she will come some days but no. No nanny I don’t really trust anyone tbh. We both can be flexible so we will have to woke up earlier and work or stay up later. It will suck but it will also be cheaper

Re-read The Giving Tree -- if you keep giving and giving and giving, people will keep taking and taking and taking. You'll keep getting depleted, not enriched. Boundaries babe!

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I have kids so I hide in the office until my work day is complete.

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