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Is Amazon offering permanent work from home?
KPMG global will be calling employees to work from office from jan onwards and hybrid system will be applicable. However, i will be on notice period and plan to continue to wfh. So to return my laptop and stuff, will i need to go to the office or they will send someone to pick from my home itself? Unusual situation!! Any ideas around it?
Hello all,
Got offer from Nagarro & Hughes systique corporation.
YOE and skill- 5 years as a QA
Nagarro: 18 lpa(17 fixed+ 1lpa allocation bonus)
Hughes systique corporation: 20 lpa fixed
Nagarro is giving WFH & not negotiating anymore & hughes I need to relocate to Gurgaon as It is WFO
So which company is good to join & better yearly increment? TIA Nagarro
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Happy New Year, NYC 😁
Foregoing your bonus to join another firm.

Chief
I bet he was not expecting you to do anything, and I would caution against training him that you'll drop everything to comfort him/make him feel better because he'll start to expect it.
Rising Star
So… I don’t have this problem at all. If I have work to do I hide out in my office. Sometimes if I’m too lazy to entertain the dog I pretend to work while watching Netflix.
Is this behavior something your spouse requests? “Honey I had a bad day make me feel better?” If so a discussion on how it impacts your work negatively needs to happen.
If it’s something you’re doing out of guilt my only advice is - be selfish. My friends are all amazed at what an active father and husband my spouse is. It’s because I’m selfish.
Also - I do things for him too I was just pulling examples of when I am lazy or also not feeling 100%!
I love this D1! Hope to become more like you!
I’m the same as you OP and I’m honestly over at how much caring for everyone + working in consulting has exhausted me. For example I put so much energy in my work and partner that I don’t take time for myself and at times for my friends. Same as you, I love being a caring person but I’ve also realized that doing it to the extent I’m doing it now is not serving me anymore. Ive started going back to Therapy for it - it’s a long journey but I’m taking baby steps to be more selfish and uphold my boundaries :)
Rising Star
We’ve got two kids so I am rarely front and center…. I am the one taking care of everyone else. So yes I can 100% relate to having trouble balancing while working from home.
Idk if you have kids but the guilt and pressure go way up after kids and it’s unfortunate that as someone else said, we must be “selfish” to do what we need, whether for work or our personal selves.
For example, I have my first vacation planned with my husband since we had our second kid. Been years since just us have gone away from the kids for more than a day. We have 5 days. But now it’s changed to 4 days so my husband and his FIL can built the kids a playset. I cried. And everyone said “but the kids will love it, but you’ll love seeing the kids happy, but but but”. Not a single f’ing person said “oh that sucks to have a full day of your short once every three years vacation taken away, or let’s find another day to do the playset.” It doesn’t matter than I’m breaking down because I desperately need this time. And it’s “selfish” of me to want that time and be sad to give it away to the kids.
Sorry for the rant. But set your boundaries now. Stand up for yourself. You can finish your work day with your door shut and headphones in, and after work you can bring him a beer and play a board game…whatever makes him relax. But put yourself first, because no one else will
His mother is a stay at home mom so I’m sure she will come some days but no. No nanny I don’t really trust anyone tbh. We both can be flexible so we will have to woke up earlier and work or stay up later. It will suck but it will also be cheaper
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Re-read The Giving Tree -- if you keep giving and giving and giving, people will keep taking and taking and taking. You'll keep getting depleted, not enriched. Boundaries babe!
Chief
I have kids so I hide in the office until my work day is complete.