How do you move on from getting insecure?
In the past, all my relationships ended with my exes cheating on me from their exes.
I recently started dating someone and its been great. But I have this weird feeling of self-doubt that didn’t exist when I was single. I sought a lot of therapy to heal myself and regain my confidence and I did. But I guess the scars remain forever.
I am not going out of my way to check my bf’s phone or any of that (never done that and will never do) but back of the mind

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Before you even finish the post. You need to convince yourself that YOU are the prize and worthy of love and appreciation. Because you are! And those who didn’t realize it had something wrong with them and their desire to connect in general — it’s not YOUR shortcoming

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Op - many of my ex’s cheated on me and I had the same fears.

What I realized is that the common denominator in that situation was me & the fact that I picked people where I saw red flags & disregarded them, rather than leaving. I don’t know if this applies to you, but when I was dating those people, I had low self esteem and made excuses for boundary issues or things they did, that I wasn’t comfortable with.

Ever since I got therapy and am able to be more secure in myself and what I will/won’t accept, I’ve felt better about who I was dating and was able to trust them. Don’t compromise on what makes you feel secure - the right person will accommodate and show you through their actions that you can trust them.

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This exact response is me as well

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I’m not sure if this is relevant but it’s something I wish I knew

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I am always scared that what if he leaves me for an ex. I know I’m overthinking this and I don’t know how to stop.
Has anyone overcome their insecurities while in a relationship?
To add to it, his exes are very smart and are doing much better than I am in their careers. He also prefers to be friends and stay in touch with them which bothers me but I don’t think it would be right of me to stop him from talking to them. Their conversations are very clean and I just wanna heal from my end instead of bugging him with my mess

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