How do you move on past a breakup when the relationship was all around perfect match except for my ex partner has a lot of self healing to do. Nothing that deterred me, but relates to their childhood upbringing, relationships with a parent
They said i’m the perfect person for them, but until they sort this out they don’t know what they want, like if they even want a family or spouse. Before we both said we were very excited for family in a few years. he was my best friend. i’m trying not to wait

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Oh wow. That’s insanely rough, I’m so sorry.
I’m so impressed that he is able to do that, but also so hurt for you. I think the best plan is some therapy support and healing, making a full life for yourself to move forward, and just do what you need to do to become a whole person. It’s gonna suck but nothing else to do here :(

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How long was this? Relationships like these are really damaging. Please work with a therapist.

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How old are you both?

Sounds like he wants to move on. Maybe after some time away he might come back. But move on yourself, don’t wait for him.

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Second this, I’d maybe keep the “doors open” for like 6 months, letting him know this won’t go on forever. BUT definitely focus on myself and healing during this time, you don’t wanna just freeze in time for someone.
Also this might be hard to hear but I must say, if the relationship was THAT perfect, you wouldn’t be where you are.
Sending love and best wishes ❤️

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