How do you politely tell your in-laws who aren’t taking the virus seriously that you aren’t comfortable with them staying at your house overnight?

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Can you ask your husband to talk to them instead? Express your concerns to him

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Ugh that's so messed up. Maybe try to explain that its not personal and you're not meeting up with anyone else during this time to avoid spreading it

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Telling them is your partner’s job

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I wouldn’t be worried about offending them etc. If they aren’t taking the virus seriously, nothing you say will make them just accept it. Sounds like they already judge you for “brainwashing” their son (lol). If I were in your position, I’d ask my partner, their son, to directly let them know you guys are doing strict quarantining and not having anyone stay in your home. The main point here seems to deliver this message, not as much whether they like it.

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I like this approach, since we haven’t had anyone else stay in our home since the pandemic started. Thank you!

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It is your spouses job. If I was married and my IL’s came overnight and felt like that. I would remove myself and stay at a hotel. When home bleach all surfaces and Lysol the house

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If you aren't comfortable with them staying the night, you probably shouldn't be seeing them at all... But that's a conversation your spouse needs to have with them.

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Doesn't matter what they're pushing for. It's what you're comfortable with. If they really wanted to see you, then they should have taken the pandemic more seriously. Their actions have consequences.

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Agree woth others, your spouse needs to deal with them on this topic.

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I know logically I shouldn’t care, but I moved away from my family so he could be closer to his (he spent years away for work beforehand) so it’s upsetting they still think I’m trying to take him away.

The fact that they’re not respecting your boundaries here is a good reason not to see them at all for a while... maybe that will help get the message across?

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