How do you politely turn a guy down? Not strangers, I’m comfortable with that. But I get asked out a lot by people I regularly interact with. And for whatever reason, I’ll know I’m not interested in going out. I just get really uncomfortable turning them down/ don’t always know what to say. What have said if you’ve been in this situation?

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No is a complete sentence.

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I’ve learned to be direct and just say “no thank you” without further explanation. They may think it’s rude but otherwise they pop back like clockwork every 3 months thinking I’d change my mind. No regrets.

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“No thank you.”

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we are better as friends

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This is defs polite.

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“I’m not interested in a romantic relationship with you.”

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Flex your “being direct” muscle, lol. Say you think they’re great and you’d love to be friends but you’re not interesting in something romantic”

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“Oh - I’m flattered - but am saying no to going on a date, I’m just not interested in you in that way.”
Optionally, depending on how much you see them/like them: “I really do value [you as a friend/our working relationship/seeing you in these group settings] and hope this doesn’t change that.”

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Or if you want to use humor “Trust me you don’t want to date me, I’m crazy” 😂

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Women shouldn’t have to put themselves down to not go on a date

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This used to happen to me all the time when I was single with guy friends. They were all part of my larger group of friends that I saw often. I would say that I wanted to stay friends but was not looking for more than that. And I found that as long as I still treated them as friends, they quickly rebounded and all was good.

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Omg. I know you. You are that girl who flirts intensely with guys and then when they show interest you say “omg guys ask me out all the time and I’m not interested”. It must be tiring to play that game in your mind. And to those of us who are watching… it just looks sad and desperate.

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Relax BCG2. A) I don’t think anyone is watching/noticing. B) I’m actually quite shy and mostly an introvert. C) I’m a great flirt but very selective with who I flirt with D) I am pretty likable all around, no one in my life has complained about it.
But take away from this post what you need.

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I always just said I’m in a relationship or seeing someone. Sometimes that was a stretch but it’s a convenient way to deflect.

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Yeah usually my line too with strangers.

Thanks for everyone’s input.

I think I left this with too little context.
Today’s was a nice guy who works at a family owned grocers I’ve gone to for years. They know my parents by name when they visit and so very friendly in general. And he asked in the nicest, most respectful way. So not someone I can use the lets be friends line with (we’re not friends). And someone I’ll continue to run in to. I’ve had this with trainers at gyms and coffee shop owners I frequent.

It’s just one of those friendly acquaintance situations where I don’t know what to say to, “would it be ok if I took you out sometime?”

I don’t think saying you’re not interested is rude at ALL and these people should be fully capable of still acting normal around you and being friendly. If not, they’re not the people you want to be around

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