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How do you respond to a teacher that is talking bad about you in front of staff and students as well as this teacher feels she needs to try and control your classroom as well

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Let the principal know what is going on first and what you are planning to do. Ask to speak to a few of the teachers she has been badmouthing you to and discuss what is being said and how they would recommend dealing with this teacher. If she talking to them, then they know her well enough to know how to handle her. Be open to what they say and be willing to hear criticism. Finally, once you think you understand her issues with you. Ask to speak to her privately. Explain you have concerns that you’d like to work out with her. Let her know know how you feel using I statements. Ask her what it is that she is wanting to accomplish with these comments. Then ask if she would want you or other staff to behave the same way toward her or could you and she work out a better way of addressing her concerns. If you put the ball in her court, then she has to be the one to change because they are her ideas. Just stay calm and even voiced no matter what she says. If she flat out refused to change, go back to the principal. By not taking the bait, you will earn credibility with others and she will slowly loose her power and stop.

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Might be time to have a challenging conversation. Be prepared to be gaslit (this teacher may tell you it's not their intention or you are being too sensitive and taking their words too personally) but stand your ground. No matter what their intention, there was harm done and it needs to be repaired. Good luck with this!

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Elementary school buildings are literally worse than the movie mean girls. It's hysterical. Tell her to mind her business???

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I agree elementary school teachers can be catty. It frustrates me because I believe in leading by example. I tell my students to be kind, help each other, lift each other up, etc. As educators, we need to do the same for each other!

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Thanks for the meme!

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If you are comfortable with confrontation I would have defended myself right then and there. There’s no reason to be treated like a punching bag. If that’s not your cup of tea you can seek admin help if they are helpful, or if all else fails just eliminate the opportunity for interaction. I’m sorry if I wasn’t too helpful Because my solution is always “ nah you’re not gonna do me like that and act like you’re a high and mighty teacher over me.”

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I be like…

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Flaming dog sh*t in a bag on her doorstep? I am not the bigger person, I don’t take the high road 😂. Have a friend tell her that she has grossly underestimated your level of crazy 😉. I’m all for a quick solution. I’m certain that in my district some have possibly talked about me, but everyone knows I’m a wildcard...so I’ve never heard about any of it. When I do have an issue I either confront it head on in an email, or wait for the chance to be petty and one up them. Lol 😂 geesh I probably sound like a nightmare...I really am a campus favorite though. Or maybe I’m bat sh*t and everyone is scared of me 🙃. Regardless, lol I’m okay with it.

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I would have shut her down right away and told her how unprofessional she is for speaking this way. My next move would have been to have her and myself have a meeting with the principal to put her in her place.

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Tell the principal. My principal just informed me last week that a teacher who had most of my students last year has been gossiping about me with some of their parents and made the mistake of reporting what she learned to the principal who has since written her up and sent a warning email to the entire faculty about engaging in unprofessional conversations about colleagues.

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Be assertive plan how you will react respectfully and tactfully tell her how you feel especially in front of the students model how to assertively stand up to a Bully.

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Sounds good put things in writing and include your principal providing evidence of you trying to resolve it professionally and if things don’t improve they can intervene. Such a shame that a workplace full of adults has to feel like a high school continue to keep your head up May it resolve soon NO ONE should have to deal with this.

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I’ve had something similar happen, and heard about it from someone from a different school!

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I dealt with something similar where a student came to me and told me what two teachers were saying about me in front of a bunch of students. It was disgusting what they were saying. I ended up not working at the school long after this situation and I completely stopped acknowledging their existence. Literally would look right past them and pretend they didn’t exist. But when I’ve dealt with similar situations, I’ve approached people directly and asked why they think this is appropriate, especially in front of other people such as students. Be assertive. In reference to what goes on in your room, shut that down in the moment when she tries again. If she tries to change something or order your students, you change the course of action to whatever you planned on doing originally. After class, I would approach that person and say that there’s no need for her suggestions because you got it down on your own. This teacher clearly thinks they’re above you. It’s time to remind them that they’re JUST another teacher in the building. With all this being said, I know it’s easier said than done and I am wishing you peace and luck. I hate people that bring this kind of stress!! It’s the worst and can really alter the way you feel about going to work every day. I’ll tell you what, when I acted like those two people at my old job weren’t around by completely ignoring them, it felt good! Lol

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I had this happen to me. She was extremely rude and I tried to file a grievance due to my AP not doing anything and I was basically retaliate against and moved from my content. My recommendation is stay away from HR unless you have exhausted all other options

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File a union grievance or a grievance with hr?

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Go to your union, first and foremost. Don't want to unnecessarily involve admin

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Kill them with kindness!

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The first time I would address it in private, possibly with administration. The second time, address it in public, modeling for the students how you would respectfully confront someone when they are upset with you. The third time file a grievance. And, DOCUMENT all of these encounters.

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Do you know any high school chemistry teachers? (Think “Breaking Bad”).

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IES are you team teaching with her? Are your classes departmentalized?

Do your best at the school you are at and make sure that you show your knowledge with your staff and get your parents and staff on your side. I don’t know your situation but it seems like she has a personal issue with you that you might not even be aware of. If this is impacting your present position and livelihood then you may need to file a formal complaint.

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Start a paper trail. Document each time. If other teachers document as well, you have your prof of unprofessional behavior that is a breach of her contract. It also makes it a hostile work environment.

Start calling her an administrator. 🤣

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