How do you start with a family member who knows they need help but don’t know where to start?

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You can tell them and be kind, but it won’t matter if they aren’t ready to help themselves.

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I've learned the hard way that you cannot really help someone else in recovery if they are not helping themselves. Even with the best intentions in mind it causes resentment for both sides. The best way to help the family member is to help yourself. Look at therapy that helps you cope with the family member in question or join a sort of al anon group.

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You may try to get other family members to do an intervention with this person. Each telling them how their using affects them. Than maybe you and your family members checking to see if they are willing to go in to treatment. Also keep praying for them. This was my experience with my family and today I celebrated 30 years. God, AA, NA and family 🙏🏾😍

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Thanks all! It’s for my younger brother, he admitted to us last night that he needs help but he doesn’t know how to start it.

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A great way is to let him know you are supportive, and consult a dr on whats exactly happening. From his/her recommendation call your insurance to get a list of facilities!

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