How do you stealthily ask for help? I see a lot of you mentioning that you ask your partners to give you deadline, have your assistant check in, etc. That sounds great, but I'm so nervous about looking like the odd one out or revealing my ADHD in the process. So I haven't brought myself to do it yet.

Anyone in NY who has UnitedHealthcare and got covid testing and antibody testing via CityMD? Were all expenses covered / free of charge? Thanks!

Anyone up for sharing your wisdom on preparing for the LSAT with ADHD?

Is Planet Fitness a good gym…only attracted due to its low price?

Is it me or you as well postponed the plans for marriage/ proposals if any? I feel Iike this is a good time to bond at least with texts,calls or an outdoor meet and talk anything except covid. Just doesn’t feel like the right mindset to think about marriage with what is going on.

Thoughts on living in close proximity to oil wells in Brea (e.g. seems like Brea Olinda school district is sitting on several active oil wells)? Like the neighborhood but concerned about health

Has anyone here suffered from Barotrauma or any other related injury due to frequent in-the-air travels? Curious since we are on the road so often

Anyone hear about Equinox Sports Club being open to corporate all access members on weekends? (All access normally doesnt include sports club)

Is there any research saying young kids aren’t major covid asymptomatic spreaders? As more businesses open up, more kids are in day care. Young adults (millennials) are parents of kids. Kids are at family events and bbqs, but not at protests. Kids put things in their mouth and touch and jump on everything, very unaware. It seems convincing.

Has anyone ever gone on disability at a law firm where you’re the only paralegal to the partner of the firm? I’m worried I’ll be replaced while I’m out or that I’ll be letting him down. I’m already behind on my workload so I can imagine how backed up and out of touch I will be when I come back. I don’t want to let him down. I’ve been with the firm 5 years and I’m really his right hand. But I am concerned about it.

Any recommendations for nice spas in the midtown area that offer couples massages? Budget about $150/person

My doctor who I’ve been seeing for a very long time told me it’s fine to hold off getting the vaccine being that I’ve already had it, im young, and healthy. Think I’m going to listen to him as opposed to y’all “consultants”.

Folks with kids - what's your routine for cooking, gym, home chores etc. ? We have a 2.5 year old toddler and we struggle to cook food, drop off our kid in daycare and then cook dinner and find time for working out. I am curious how other working couples organize and manage cooking, home chores gym. I am recently diagnosed with ADHD and curious how others make it work while working full time. Thanks!

DC transplant here, is there something similar to a CAVA or sweetgreens here? Fast casual healthy food option, not Poke/teriyaki

Random thought. I would describe the tiredness you feel in pregnancy like a heavy stone tied to you that just drags you down and you’re too tired to care or try to fight it.

For me it’s not super constant or frequent but when I get that tired I feel like I become part of my mattress. 😂😴

Just watched the exchange between Jim Jordan and Fauci in the House hearing. Also checked the comment section at both CNN and FOX. Boy people are so divided.

The current solution sounds like a compromise between both sides: you can go out; you need to wear mask. Neither side will be satisfied by this and will get more divided while cases grow.

“A consensus decision in a moment of crisis is very often going to be the middle of the road, and they’re usually the worst decision.” — Brian Chesky

Any recommendations on meal replacement shakes to lose weight?

Anyone else have mild OCD?

Hasn't negatively affected my life (could argue it has improved my work quality)

Whenever I send/recieve emails or texts of importance, I reread it over and over again. I'm talking like 20+ times

And I'll read it under my breath and if I mess up a word or it doesn't sound right, I'll start from the beginning and reread it until I get the sound and cadence right

The real question is how can we make money off of this outbreak?

What happens when you disclose to your firm that you've recently been diagnosed with depression and anxiety? I know I suffer from those things, I've just never had to disclose a disability to my job before and I'm kind of nervous about it.

Chemotherapy is always improving but there's a lack of funding for some areas. Why do you think this is?

Has anyone made a successful transfer from the EM/EL position at MBB to a VP at BB ibank, or vice versa? I know the skillsets are different but wouldn’t they even out at the project management level?

Any folks that passed the CPA with Ninja only???

Name a good “activation”

I am looking to leave my employer and found a few roles that will allow me to build my team. I wanted tap this group to see if there was any insight to non-poaching agreements. Looking back at my contract there is no clause that states anything about it. I’ve been at this company for 7 years when the HR department was still small so it was later added. This is in New York. What are the risks and challenges? Anything I should be aware of?

My Obgyn is offering weekly classes that range from “childbirth” to “infant cpr” and mom/dad “meet and greets”. Outside of the cpr one which seems important, did anyone attend classes and find them useful? Or did not attend classes and wish they had? The recommended curriculum is about 20-30 hours in total over 2-3 months which is a time commitment. Thank you!

Newly pregnant here! Anyone get pregnant right after starting a new job? Nervous about telling my team and needing to take leave within my first year at the new company.

Parents to be: Has anyone not changed their last name and come up with a compromise for naming your kids’ last names? It’s strange to me that the dad’s last name is still the default whether or not the mom took his name. (Apparently I’m in the minority, only 20% of women retain their name) What’s your plan and what’s been your experience? Also very interested in how LGBTQ+ community handles this.

When I was taking a walk earlier, a big dog suddenly ran out of a house and ran straight towards me. I was very scared, so I quickly turned around, and the dog pushed me on my back. I emailed the doctor to see if I should go in for a check. Meanwhile, I am wondering what I can do. The neighbor didn’t say sorry or anything. What is something is wrong and the neighbor should be responsible? Thanks

Had a successful 20 week anatomy scan this morning & telling manager that I’m pregnant this afternoon during our weekly 1:1.. any advice on how to go about it? Or a script 😅😂

Hello and congratulations to you all! About to be a first time father, as my wife is due in the first week of the new year ☺️

I couldn't be happier and I'm so glad this community exists for us to share all the joys related to new life. So happy for you all! 💕

Hello..

Can anyone here let me know in details about intra comapany transfer process ??

IBM India to IBM X (UK, Canada, etc...)

Technical interviewers keep asking current offer and salary details before proceeding for interviews and tailor interviews to accept or reject..
They are checking budgets or want to compare their salaries for switching seems :P
Faced it in TCS Wipro HCl..

Looking for a DevOps role.

Thought on BBC NYC?

What did y’all actually want to be when you grew up?

Leaving for a week and a half vacation and just did 33 hours in two days in order to prep my VPs for deal work without me and get ahead on work I know would be asked this week. Lean deal teams provide for a lot of opportunities but absolutely suck when you physically need time off to recoup. Can’t help but feel anxious but also like wtf

Hi,

Is there any shift allowance for UK shift??

Best Persian food in LA?

Hey guys

I have applied for Analyst - Transaction Banking post

Any idea how much should I ask for CTC and what kinda questions would they ask in the interview

I have two years of experience.

I know I’ve seen a few similar posts before in the past, but do you guys have preferred/recommended apps to keep you organized and productive with work? I have my work calendar and synced through outlook on my phone, but just looking for suggestions to keep everything as organized as possible.

My partner is a lawyer with ADHD, diagnosed as an adult, and about eight years into our 11 year relationship. We're working on him articulating how his brain works, and I want understand his experience as best I can.

What's the one thing you wished your (non-ADHD) spouse/partner understood about living with ADHD?

Anyone up for sharing your wisdom on preparing for the LSAT with ADHD?

Been a rough week here and quitting has crossed my mind more than once. What keeps you guys motivated and inspired on the job?

Anyone else struggle to enter time daily? If you’ve overcome this hurdle, how did you do it? I keep a notebook for my time and then send it off to a secretary to enter but I still miss so much of it that I always have to go back through my emails.

How do you guys manage to eat when you're swamped? Between my workload and the stress of the upcoming holidays, I feel like eating just gets totally forgotten.

I’ve been getting my meds the last few months from Cerebral but just the dreaded email that they will no longer be prescribing stimulants starting in October due to regulatory changes. Does anyone know if this is for all telehealth services or just some? It’s been amazing not having to go in person and scrambling to make up my hours at work just to get the same meds I’ve been taking for almost 10 years.

Billable hour question: is anyone else just completely incapable of keeping up with your time? I’ve been an attorney for 3 years now and tried everything I can think of to figure this out but I just can’t do it. It’s the same thing at the end of every month - staying up late entering in an entire month of time. Luckily most clients I work for are flat fee/percentage based but I still feel like a failure for not being able to do this thing that seemingly every other lawyer can do. Any tips?

Has anyone switched from 5 mg of Adderall XR to 10 mg? Can you describe the difference? I just started and feel the subtle improvement from before, but not sure if it should be more apparent/helpful.

I’m going to be taking the bar for the first time. Does anyone have experience with requesting accommodations for the bar exam? I was diagnosed late in life so I’m worried that not having accommodations during law school will make this process difficult. Additionally, any study tips/schedules/prep courses you recommend for lawyers with ADHD?!

I’m so over the cross-examination at CVS every time I have to fill a prescription. Are you really trying to play doctor right now????

I just learned about rejection sensitive dysphoria. It describes that feeling of severe emotional pain tied to rejection or failure. And it is associated with ADHD. This explains so much about me and how I approach the world and my job. This feels like important information although I don’t know how to use it yet.

What’s the best advice/strategy you’ve adopted for lawyering with ADHD?

I've struggled a lot with my ADHD in my new position. Lately I've had some really good days and done good work. I know I should be happy about it, but my thoughts keep getting negative, like I know it won't last. Do you guys ever get imposter syndrome like this? How do you deal with it?

I’ve been trying to figure out dosage and medication over the past month and wanted some insight from people who may have more experience with diff doses. I started with 5mg Adderall for 2 weeks but it stopped being effective around the 4-5th day. I switched to 10 mg for a week and it was good but a bit up and down, so switched to Vyvanse 30 mg for a week, which was too strong. I’m now on 15 mg Adderall, but it feels like I can’t concentrate and I’m scattered. Question in comments:

That anxious feeling when you’ve been putting off a non-urgent project, but now it’s become an embarrassingly long time (2+ months) because nobody has followed up in the interim to put some pressure on you… I need to finish it and face the music, but really not looking forward to it. Can anyone relate/any tips to minimize backlash?

Should I just quit the legal field?

I have been a paralegal or legal assistant since 2010. I have worked for small and large firms and a TPA. I've worked in L&E, PI, and ID. Billing hours gave me nightmares. Right now I'm in a hybrid paralegal/LA position where I'm responsible for all of the docketing and supporting the managing partner and 1 associate and their 90+ ID caseload. I make a lot of mistakes everywhere I work. I feel so incompetent. Should I just abandon this career path?

Been struggling with my ADHD/depression more over the past few weeks than ever before. I am at a serious risk of losing my job for failure to meet billables and I can’t bring myself to fix the problem. I am normally an over achiever, but new to this job- so I don’t have a reputation to lean on here. I have not disclosed my conditions. Literally terrified and not sure how to pull myself out of this. Grateful for any advice or just to know others have made it through something similar.