How do/did you know your SO is right for you?

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If you asking then they ain't it

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For me, at the very least, it usually means it’s someone who shares the same core principles that are important to me, someone I can be myself around, trust, and really enjoy spending time with, someone who is supportive and helps me grow, and makes an effort to work through things that come up maturely

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She’s my cheat code to life! Life is soo much easier doing it with her

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This made me smile.

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Personally, I think I can be in multiple relationships where my SO treats me right and we have fun together and we connect well. The defining feature for me is when I want the absolute best for them. It's the shift in mentality where instead of saying, "are they right for me? What if I find someone better" to "what can I do for my partner because their happiness means the most to me".

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I’m not sure I agree with the people who say “if you have to ask, they aren’t.” I think relationships have cycles where there can be more doubt, for example when you start to emerge from the honeymoon phase (sometimes on different schedules) and you have to adjust for how your relationship feels without the butterflies.

For me, I know my fiancé is “the one” (at least as far as anyone can be certain). I know this because I trust him completely, my life feels better because of him, he’s my favorite person to spend time with and the person I find most interesting. But, I definitely have had doubts before when we were figuring out how to express love in the ways each other needed. And I may again as we go through new stages. But I think at a certain point, you decide “the one” is the person you’re willing to work through that doubt with.

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I have grown to realize that guys and gals think about "the one" differently. I personally tend to focus on whether or not our values align and how we complement each other.
I once dated this guy that I thought I thought we would end up together, but that never happened. He had a lot of the qualities I was looking for in a man, but things got complicated real quick.

My sister's husband said when he met my sister at an event, he just knew he had to marry her. That was his "pick up line". Of course he "chased" my sister for about 2 years before the tied the knot.

I guess there's no magic rule to knowing "the one". I just give it my best shot and let time tell.

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I notice this too! Many of my guy friends chased their girlfriends from early on, saying they knew they wanted her before really getting to know them.

I have that initial dreamy state of being so smitten and comfortable with someone, but the biggest shift for me is starting to want the best for them and even wanting to be a better person. I start to feel confident, happier, and secure - no anxieties. The second step is figuring out if we are compatible in values. I couldn’t enter a relationship if we didn’t reach the second step.

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If you have to ask they aren’t

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What’s SO ?

Significant other, or your loved one

I once asked one of my frnd about the same when he got married to his school time darling. He said 'she was there with me in my all ups and my all downs so i guess she is the one' . And thats what life is about, isnt??
So following the path shown by my friend, i am also marrying a guy who has been with me since past 6 years through thick and thin. So the thumb rule is, give it time and see if it works for you.

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