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How does one become more outgoing? I think it’ll help me have more friends

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Usually trying to make a connection with people that you have things in common with will help you come out of your shell/be outgoing more easily. It’ll take the pressure out of trying to find what to talk about since there is a shared interest already.

It can be awkward at first, but powering through the first interactions and making plans to do things in person (+ following through) will usually be worthwhile!

Lots of people are looking to make new friends or expand their circles, but are too shy and do not do anything about it, people will be happy that you initiate! Go build your urban tribe :)

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Introvert here -
Sounds creepy but start digital with a discord server with just friends, have friends invite their friends and it’ll get you used to meeting new people without risk of them being completely inhospitable to decent conversation

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