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How does one deal with a lifelong friend that’s always acting like they’re better than you? The dude’s a pilot in the navy and has an ego bigger than the world. Apparently accountants are cat piss

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It’s ok to not be friends anymore.

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Why are you still friends with him?

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Basically because we’ve been good friends since kindergarten and have common interests. Other than that I’m not sure, he mostly brags about stuff he buys and makes it known he makes significantly more than me even though he was a bad student, etc.

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Don’t listen to him because long term you will dwarf his limited government salary lol

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He’s always bragging about what he buys and how much he makes ($20k more than me). Then I start in, ‘yeah I barely have anything left after expenses’ but in reality I’m stacking cash like crazy. I suppose that’s an ego boost for him as well tho

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Talk your sh*t back haha the dudes going to be capped out pretty quickly in the navy if it’s $$ he cares about... but honestly his job is a lot cooler than ours...

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Yeah thank you for his service

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Military pilots tend to be huge ego/alpha types, comes with the territory and sure hes surrounded by the same type of people

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Guessing you’re somewhere between $65-$75k, so he’s what, somewhere around $85k-$95k? If he didn’t go to school, no student debt to worry about. Plus pretty sure he’d get a housing allowance? I’m also guessing he doesn’t have much saved up. Won’t take long for your earnings to surpass his while his will plateau shortly.

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Honestly being older that doesn’t sound like a lot -.-

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Maybe he's got his own shit going on that's making him feel bad so he's doing this? Not cool for sure, but that's the only thing I could think for a good friend to treat me poorly. Has he always been this way?

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Totally totally totally agree that he shouldn't be treating you this way. I wish we could all just be nice and good. But the old adage "hurt people hurt people" kinda rings true here based on what you said. I'm sorry he's being that way. It must be hurtful as his friend

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Friendships do not come with lifetime guarantees. Move on.

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If you still value the friendship just be upfront: “I’ve known you a long time. I knew you when you had nothing. I’m glad that you’re successful but I really don’t care about all the material stuff.” He might find it a relief. Because constantly trying to “one up” people in your social circle is exhausting.

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Navy pilots are pretty cool though...

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Yea, OP when you break up your friendship with him, give me his number

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Kill him With kindness

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Doesn’t work with an ego like that lol

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Have an honest conversation with him or move on.

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Life is a journey. People have different experiences in their lives there’s really no point to compare with others. If he makes you unhappy, then keep a distance from him.

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