How does your significant other handle your relapse? I’m 5 years sober overall but relapsed / slipped recently and my spouse isn’t speaking with me. I know alcoholism is hard on loved ones but I’ll do your spouse cut you off? How to deal with it?

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Counseling and therapy. Acknowledge how you betrayed her trust and work from there. Good luck! I'm sure it is very hard on both of you.

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Time, patience, tolerance, love, compassion, kindness.

If your SO saw you in your active addiction, then they are probably very much in a state of fear. It may take some time to rebuild trust, but “doing the next right thing” will help get things back on track the fastest.

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My SO is pretty ambivalent about “my issues” he doesn’t directly punish me in the way your SO seems to be doing. But it makes me sad that we are so disconnected that he can more or less be okay while I’m struggling so much. Together but yet so lonely.

Marriage can be hard and is many things. It’s a commitment to always try again through the natural ebb and flow of life.

Give it a few days and maybe SO will come back around.

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