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Dating apps. Sorry, I know many people will disagree, but with our jobs I found it helped a lot. It’s a bit of a job in itself, which I know doesn’t sound romantic, but I found that prioritizing dating as just a part of my schedule really helped.
Dedicate one night a week (or every couple weeks) to making an effort. For me it was Thursday. “Match” or lay the groundwork Sunday through Tuesday. Plan something for Thursday. Get back early enough for a cocktail - even 8-9:30pm seems fair for a first meeting. I know we’re all tired after long weeks and travel, but knowing it was one night to break the ice was generally manageable for me. When I met the right one, we also did that Friday. And Saturday. But the others, well...not so much. Which meant I still had my weekends to be with friends!
You’re methodical in work, it’s ok to be methodical in dating. The right guy will understand - and you’ll save yourself a lot of time worrying about how and when to make time. Oh, and I made the first ‘move’!
When and how did you close the apps and be exclusive. I’ve met a few guys I like but none is proactive in getting off of the apps
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Met my now husband at 29 on okcupid. Got married a little over a year later a bit after my 30th bday.
I found online dating, especially with okcupid and more “comprehensive” apps worked better for me.
Ones with more info about people that things like tinder/bumble/hinge. For me this meant okcupid but I know there are others. My husband and I had both answered more than 100 of the okcupid questions and were a 99% match; I found match percentage to be very indicative of value matches with people, pretty indicative of intellectual match, and then in person was really just about personal chemistry.
But we are both analytical, talky types so this sort of thing works well for us.
I'm older and recently divorced. Dating is tough when you travel. I think it would be so much easier if I worked local but then I would be homeless.
Grad school
Extensions of mutual friends - met on a weekend when we both got invited / went to to said mutual friend’s housewarming party.
CMB. Met at 26, got married at 29. When we met I was on a local project though, which was great. Helped us establish a foundation so that when I started traveling about 6 months after we met, we were already comfortable with each other and our friendship.
In a bar on St Patrick’s Day
Met a really sweet guy on CMB (CoffeeMeetsBagel). Our first date was literally coffee at 10am on a Saturday, because honestly that was the only time I had. Only been a couple months, but he’s very “normal”, career-oriented, but still makes time for me and is consistent thus far. We’ll see where it goes. I do think CMB is much better than Bumble or others. Many of those apps have been tainted.
It’s going pretty well at a natural/normal pace. I still have the app, but never even look at it. He has it, too. This is the least stressful dating situation I’ve had in awhile. I don’t feel any pressure to DTR, as I think it will naturally come up. He’s very open, communicates well and seems pretty mature. I also feel comfortable saying what I mean as well. In the past, with guys I felt less sure about, I pushed to DTR fairly soon for some kind of certainty. But trust, when it’s healthy and normal- you worry about it sooooooo much less.
Coffee meets bagel! I actually like the idea of apps because it connects you with people who you normally might not cross paths with or people who aren’t usually your type
Bumble. Agree with SC2 as my husband and I wouldn’t have crossed paths at all
My husband and I are both consultants, different firms. We met through mutual friends in the city we were both traveling to at the time. I was 26 when we met, we got married when I was 28. Long distance was tough at first but now we live in the same place. It can happen! 😃
Through eharmony. I used to do what C1 has mentioned. I would spend a couple of hours mon- thu to hit up people and get a conversation going through texts. I used to be honest and tell them that I travel for a living and can meet only Friday, sat or Sunday morning. And then she would understand and some wouldn’t. Only met up those who were okay with it.
My (now) husband was super understanding and went 2 steps ahead when we hit it off. He started traveling with me to my client site, planned our weekends so that we could travel directly from or to my client site. He showed me that I was important to him as I was and he would put in effort to work around my work requirements. When he proposed, it was a no brainer for me!
I know it’s tough but I felt like being a consultant actually helped weed out some fake guys who said they were okay with no matter what their future wives’ careers but then couldn’t tolerate consulting as a profession.
Stay strong OP. It will work out when the time is right and when the dude is right. In the meanwhile, keep loving yourself. I am sure you will find someone really special!
My husband’s job doesn’t require traveling and he can work remotely every now and then. He would work remotely or if he had an office where I needed to be (such as SFO).
As far as expenses go, we paid his expenses out of pocket but he stayed in the same hotel room as me and I used a lot of my alt travel options as well.
His main reason for traveling with me is that he sincerely believes that all the travel is bad for my health so he tries to travel every now and then to reduce how much I have to travel. And also that we are kind of crazy about each other and I start missing him even before I reach the airport on Monday mornings!