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How have you dealt with your parents and their views on the current situations? I’m exasperated in communicating the purpose of BLM, peaceful protests, etc. to my parents only for them to not only reject the idea but also rebuke me for not being pro Asian... any tips on what I can do?

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I agree with my parents, and I used to be liberal but now I am not. I want to be pro asian first after seeing how the black consultant bowl talk about asians, and how the black community do not condemn other blacks for black on asian crimes, it's like nobody cares about how asians are impacted, killed, robbed. There are songs created about robbing asian people.
I severely disagrees with how asians won't be here without blacks and what's good for black are also good for asians.
Also look at what revolution has brought to south africa, crime rates skyrocketed, economic deteriorated, corruption on the high.

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I’m still amazed that I’m essentially “uppity” for correcting white supremacists in here lol.

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I also have had talked to my mother about BLM and she doesn’t quite get it (not to use this as an excuse but she also doesn’t live in the US). She has no idea what systemic racism means... In her mind she thinks if they work hard and be good, they will overcome it. I tried to explain bias by using personal examples like this: you don’t want other people to not give your child an opportunity based on their Chinese accent right? Having an accent doesn’t mean you aren’t capable of doing the work. Think about the BLM like that. You don’t want to make a baseless judgment because of someone’s skin color and imagine all aspects of society doing that to a group...

It worked in the moment. But then I think she reverted back to her old belief... I guess it will take me talking about this many times with her for her to understand. Change is hard for people. It doesn’t happen overnight.

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Seeing as I agree with my parents, no conflict of interest here.

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Japanese here and my family is fully aware how quickly systemic/full blown racism can take away everything you have worked for in the blink of an eye. Use us as an example lol.

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“ApoLoGiZe fOr PeArl HaRBor”

Remind them 1) Asians likely wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for the civil rights movement and 2) what’s good for black people would also be good for Asians and all people.

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No, are you?

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I am with you OP. A lot of Asian Americans think, well if hard work and civil obedience got me this far, why can’t black Americans do the same? And the answer is, they can’t because the system is rigged so much against them. If you knew that you could be incarcerated or even killed by police for no justifiable reason, how much motivation do you have to be a law abiding, hard working citizen? Another way to think about it is to draw comparisons to how China treats it own minority groups - I don’t know all the history there, but I’m pretty sure society and media work against them. They are more likely to be poorer and more likely to be incarcerated than Han Chinese. Do you blame the individual or the system?
As for black on Asian crimes, sadly I don’t have much to say there. There is lots of prejudice from folks on both sides and I don’t know how it could get better without more a more equal society for all.

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Talking point: strength in numbers, since Asians as a group is such a small group, we need allies for when racism is directed at us

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Agree to disagree

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Have you considered that their perspective is valid and yours might be wrong?

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I guess white supremacy is not limited to white people

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