How honest are you when speaking to your boss about getting a raise or promotion? And how honest are they back to you in return?

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I was honest with my boss about my rationale for raises/promotion and the goals the have for my career. As long as the company is supporting my growth, rewarding strong performance, and I’m learning, I’ll stay. I’m
a high performer, clients love me, and I have a reputation for building strong, happy teams. I’m committed to the company as long as they are committed to me. Once that falls out of balance, I’m out.

I was passed over once, but I understood- I was still new-ish and they needed someone with a skill set that was more of a tertiary skill for me. The second time it was bullshit (acknowledged by my boss as well) and I quit about 2 months later.

My boss though we had made a good case, he was shocked that I lost out (especially considering who was promoted) and knew immediately I’d be gone. He told the committee as much when the decision was made and they said they thought that the WLB would be enough to keep me for a few years (I had little kids at the time) and they would “try” to promote me in the next round. When he told me all of this, I asked how likely that was and he said, “I think the chances are low. These guys are sexist assholes”. And then we set about making a transition plan and kept it mum until I gave my official 2 weeks. When I told them I had an offer for 2x my salary and less hours, it felt gooooood.


What a great story. Sounds like you had a strong mentor/ally which seems to be rare.


They basically ignored my request while promoting 3 male colleagues 🤷‍♀️


Can you elaborate? What would you not be honest about?

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