How long after returning from a 12 week maternity leave did you feel fully back engaged at work? I feel like I'm starting as a brand new employee with all that changed/ happened since I left and...

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I agree with @CD1: it may not be that things have changed, but that you have changed.

I live in Canada where the maternity leave is 12 *months* and it was rough. Work honestly hadn’t even changed all that much, but my self awareness about my own limits and work style (was a night person before, hella morning person now etc.) needed a reboot. That adjustment was tough and clumsy.

I’d try to learn what your new normal is, and would suggest focusing on observing yourself, your limits and energy through the day, and then trying out new working styles rather than measuring yourself against your old self and style.

Also part of it is just getting used to slightly disappointing either your job or your family or yourself all the time but that’s honestly a pretty great tradeoff because family love is the boom boom sweetness if you’re into that.



I def felt behind and slow for months and it was tough. I think my brain was legitimately on a different speed, let alone the different motivation.


It's causing my confidence to lack. I use to enjoy work and it gave me self identity. This is week 3 back and I'm feeling disengaged


6 months of being back to work, or around the time baby is 6 months old?


Everything changes and you don't get put back together in the same way--so don't expect it. Eventually, you'll be stronger, more efficient, wiser and more calm than you were--if you don't try to force your old self into a new reality. Be gentle to yourself. Try not to get overwhelmed by the feeling that you're not 100% for your work and for your kid. That feeling sucks and you just have to push thru it. Read a little bit about how kids with working moms are successful, work as hard as you. Can at the office and turn off your email notifications at night. You got this, mama!


Totally feel you. It was so hard to come back. Everything was the same, but I had totally changed. It took me maybe 6 months to get my bearings. Some days are still hard, but we’re in more of a routine now, so that helps.

6 months to get the hang of things again


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