How long did it take for your personal romantic relationship to deteriorate once you started working for the BIG 4?

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I started in January, and she thought I was just blowing her off because she didn't think anyone actually works 90 hours a week. So she stopped talking to me by the end of February.

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I just kept telling my then girlfriend, now wife, to bear with me because this would all pay off one day :-)

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And he’s still working 60 hour weeks 5 months out of the year?

Honesty my significant other works more hours than I do lol he works in private equity. It’s hard when you’re both busy, but if you’re understanding and make time for each other when you can, it can work out. Make sure it’s quality time and stay off your phone, that’s one thing I really appreciate about him is that as soon as he walks through my door his phone goes on the counter and he just checks it here and there. Nothing is worse than finally having time together and they’re attached to their phone instead of being in the moment with you

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During the first busy season, it’s hard to articulate why working 80+ hours makes sense to someone outside of public accounting. My significant other didn’t like that I would go to happy hours with the team after spending 80+ hours with them. Looking back I should have tried to spend more “quality” time and made a date once a week of take out dinner and a tv show.

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I’m also lucky, my SO understands busy season bc of his job as an engineer.

During my busy season, he knows I want him to plan things for us.

During his busy season, he just wants to be left alone.

It’s great to communicate how to treat each other.

We don’t have kids yet, so it will all change once that happens.

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1 year in big 4 was enough to ruin my 4 year long relationship. Won’t blame the firm completely but the long hours definitely contributed

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Met - Dec 2013
Married - Sept 2016
Started B4 - Oct 2018
Separated - Dec 2020
Divorce - Pending

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I’ve been at PwC for over 22 years. We are celebrating our 35th Anniversary on Monday. My wife is absolutely the best! She is so supportive and understanding. I try to do the best I can to make her feel loved and meet her needs, but honestly, she gives me more grace than I deserve.

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This is why you date another auditor heh

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Heh heh but seriously- met my husband at the firm in 2012!

7 years

Still together.

We date for 3 years before I join the firm. She is all cool about it the first busy season with all understanding but thing start to go downhill after in second busy. Sometime it is so hard to explain unless the other party also experienced it

Got into two ... first one left me after 8 months but she was my gf since high school ... second one we got married and she supports me achieving my dreams but she gets frustrated sometime ... she is entrepreneur/business owner so she works more than me for less than me and works part time to reinvest in her bznz

10 years and going strong

3 years with my fiancé who I was dating for 9 years :(

Mine thrives. We are both driven with big goals and we have to lean into home when the other is going into a busy time or up for a promotion to be supportive. Though, we only just started purposefully dating again after 15 years and 2 kids. And now it’s even better.

So, are women or men more understanding of busy season?

I feel like it has more to do with personality than gender

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