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How long did it take to figure out that you wanted to marry the man/woman you are happily married to now? I am 28 & have been dating my bf for 5 months. And I'm still just not sure. Bad sign?

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My husband says it took him 2 months before he knew. It took me one year. Happily married for 5 years now.

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5 months is not so long. We dated a couple years and engaged a couple more. That’s probably too long but I’d say give it more time to develop and grow

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A year and a bit before I thought that this was the one. Been with my partner for 6 years now and am engaged but still not married (but mostly due to finances and then the pandemic). 5 months is not long at all!

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5 months is not a long time. Is this your first relationship?

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Not my first relationship, but my second. I knew I loved my first boyfriend after 3 months. But I was younger, and him and I spent an entire summer together and saw each other every single day.

Are you living together? If no how often do you see each other? How normal have the last five months been for you given the pandemic? My personal feeling has always been this: if you think he’s the one after a short amount of time it’s a good sign but it’s wise to give it more time so you can be sure he’s really the one and you’re seeing the real person and not being blinded by initial excitement. But if you don’t think he’s the one after five months I don’t think time will change your mind. You might end up saying ok fine he’s good enough and/or become so comfortable that it just makes sense to stay together but I don’t think that’s the best start to a marriage. So basically my view is that when you find the one you’ll know pretty soon and the extra time is just to double check. Of course there are exceptions.

I think it’s a weird time because life is so different. Though I think pandemic life will make or break relationships. If you can be happy just hanging out the two of you not seeing friends or going out much, it’s a very good sign!

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