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1 to 3 hours, depending on whether it’s a coffee date or a dinner date.
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Well, I wouldn’t if it is a coffee date… don’t want any accidents to happen! LOL
And dinner… oh my… not with a full belly.
How about a sip of water date and 30 minutes later?
I don't think there's a right answer and I wouldn't wait for the sake of it. Just progress at whatever pace feels right to you.
My husband and I had sex multiple times before dating! You need to make sure there is sex compatibility before getting invested psychologically.
My husband and I were almost a month in to dating before sex. After that first time I asked him to be my boyfriend (and eventually to marry me). Different strokes for different folks.
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This can be a struggle at least for me. If you think a guy may be a good long term fit — I think it’s better to have an emotional connection first, before the physical. Because in my experience the sexual intimacy clouds my judgment. However, when I have waited too long, then there’s a strong emotional connection and sometimes the sex sucks, and everyone likes different things and is better at some things than others in bed. Then it’s a huge disappointment. If the sex isn’t good it’s not going to change, have learned that lesson too. Three dates now is what I shoot for… though with 🐒🦠 right now I’m not shooting much at all.
With my partner, we waited until date #2. Had been hanging out as friends for a couple of months before dating, so if sex happened on date #1 it would have been no big deal. But our dinner that night didn't settle well. So, we still joke that "Oh sorry I had (Restaurant's Name) for lunch/dinner" when one of us is just not up for sex that day.
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Usually before the first date for me.
Yeah, it's like that. If the sex was nice, I'd ask the person to stay in for pizza or sushi. And then we can plan a date for later.
Married 15 years to my husband. We may in a city neither of of us lived in, and we lived in cities 5 hours apart. The night we met we went back to his hotel room and just kissed, cuddled and spelt. The next day we went to dinner, didn’t think there was a chance anything would come of it so was as real and natural as I could be. We had sex that might, second “date” and 15 years still together, he took a job in the city I live in shortly after we met