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How many of you have turned to internal roles after having a baby? Is it worth it? I’m an SA3 should I hold out for manager or go internal or leave? I have a 1 year old

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Do you like what you’re doing and would you like managing projects? If so, what would be holding you back from going for manager? Travel, stress, hours? Those are all things that to an extent can be worked through with your leadership. Have you considered a flexible work arrangement? I’ve found that being open and honest with leadership has helped - they would rather help you juggle what’s on your plate than have you leave.

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I’m internal. It’s much harder to get promoted. I would get promoted first and then go internal. The upside is I wfh ft, have great flexibility, and low stress.

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