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$300/week
I pay her $1500 a month it’s a lot of work
Mentor
It's also culture dependant. Indian grandmas do all this for free, baby watching & cooking. We (our family specifically) then buy them something expensive as a gift later, like jewelry or a vacation. So it's less transactional in the moment (negotiated rate), but still appreciative and valued in the end. My mom / MIL would be hella offended if I offered to pay them to watch their grandchild.
Coach
If I offered my mother money she would probably be deeply offended. She’s also outfitted an entire room in their house for the baby even though she’s only going to have our baby 2, maybe 3 days a week. The woman is in love.
Id pay a nanny 800-1000 per week so I’d probably offer to pay my mom that but my guess is she’d split it and we’d do 400-500
I'd try to pay the going rate if I could afford it. My sister has watched my daughter since she was an infant and I paid her $500 a month in the beginning because neither of us knew what to charge/pay and it was what i could afford. When she started going to daycare I ended up matching that rate for the days my sister watches her which is $45/day right now.
Coach
We paid $1,000/mo but also have them a credit card to use for childcare expenses (food, gas, outings, books, crafts, etc)
Subject Expert
Nothing but she’s retired and still makes more annually than I do 😂 I’d probably pay a slight haircut on market pay if she needed the money.
We paid my mom 400 per week plus a cc for activities.
She pays us in home-cooked, take-home and reheat meals, and baby clothes.
I paid mom $25/h for 8 hrs on weekdays because she took care of baby, cooked, cleaned.
Mentor
I paid my mom around $500/week when she was watching our daughter full time (from around 9 months to almost 4 when she started preschool). I also paid for activities during the week (little gym type classes; zoo memberships). Now, she picks her up from preschool around 3:30 and keeps her until we get home from work (5:30/6) and we pay her $250/week. She also picks up our middle school kid from school and drops him off to his afternoon sports practices during the school year.
We bought her a car, she’s on our cell phone plan, and she lives in a second house we bought with her in mind (we pay the mortgage and all utilities) so I consider all that part of her comp.
I give my mom $400/month. She mostly watches my 4 year old 3-4 days/week, but in the summer she has my 10 and 8 year olds a couple days/week too. She's watched all of them as our primary childcare since my oldest was little. I have tried repeatedly to give her more money ($400 took a lot of time to build up to without her rejecting it), but she refuses and says she only accepts the $400 because it pays for her gas, food for them, and taking them places. My 4 year old legit comes home from every outing with a small souvenir because she's trying to spend all the money on him even though I keep telling her its for her. I'm sure she's going to push back this fall when school starts and she only has 1.5 days/week, but I feel indebted to her for all the years of her loving on my babies, so I'll keep giving it to her as long as I can.