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How often do y’all have sex with your husbands post baby? Has it decreased/increased/stayed the same compared to pre-baby life?

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What is sex? 😭😂 Too tired to function between work and chores..

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This is me 🤣😣

10 weeks postpartum and I’m still waiting for my sex drive to come back. Part of it is the mental confusion with my own body, as someone said. Everything feels like a functional machine part to give birth to and sustain my baby - I’m having a lot of difficulty associating my body with sex again. I feel more human production machine and less woman. Perhaps time will change this, perhaps once I stop breastfeeding I will feel differently...

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That’s what I’m hoping too! We just have to have patience with ourselves

Way more

What do you attribute that to? I would have predicted that exhaustion would take a toll....

Less but not much less. Mainly because I still feel uncomfortable in my own skin while I’m breastfeeding. I’m just trying to be patient with myself and understand that it’ll get better soon

I love my post baby body, i get sleep, im just a normal amount of stressed generally.... but i have no sex drive since having my son. Its been two years. Went from wanting it once a day and thinking about it and initiating to i could care less. I really want to want it though, so i am frustrated and annoyed and wish a dr would actually help me but they dont seem to know anything about it.

Nah its been two years. No breastfeeding/pumping since he was 5 months old. :/

Slightly less but reasonable with occasional dry spells

Still breastfeeding and constantly thinking about/hoping I don’t leak during sex 😂 I know my husband wouldn’t really care but still is hard to get out of my head about it

Not bad after baby started sleeping all night. BUT we’ve had to talk about it more often to keep each other in check and set up a routine to force ourselves to do it. Once we get started it’s smooth sailing - it’s the initiating that’s the big hump. But hey, once you got the D in there - it’s full speed ahead! 🐇

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