How old and long were you with your husband before you got married?

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Hello OP, I would just like to point out that it is not because this is a Women’s Bowl that its members necessarily marry men and have “husbands”. Your question could have been a bit more inclusive using terms such as SO, partner, etc. :)
(Unless for a weird reason you really want marriage timing of HETEROSEXUAL couples only, but then you could have specified in the question). I know you probably didn’t mean to but just pointing it out as it made me feel excluded :) (and possibly other people here) thanks

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I'm all about inclusiveness too, I'm glad you pointed it out

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Met at 30, married at 33, just hit our 14th anniversary.

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Dated for 10 months, paper marriage 3 months later, did a real wedding 7 months after that. I’ve been in a 4 year relationship that resulted in nothing. I think each relationship is so different and there’s no standard.

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The gap was because it takes time to plan a wedding and give people a heads up in order to attend. I knew after ten months cause our relationship was different than any of the other ones I had been in. We were both on the same page and knew what we wanted and were ready for it. I think a lot of people just aren’t ready, or one person is but the other isn’t and waiting for that other person which is why you get years before an engagement

Met at 21, engaged at 24, married 1 year later, divorced 1.5 years later at 27. Biggest regret of my life.

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I’m southeast Asian and felt pressure from my parents to settle down with someone of the same ethnicity (25 is considered old). I was really focused on my career so I can financially help my parents, so I didn’t think about myself too much at the time. But the year long engagement made me so stressed/anxious from dealing with his BS, I didn’t have the mental capacity to stop the wedding. I‘m 31 now and much more confident in myself. I believe I will have a good future, regardless of when/if I get married again.

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Met at 16, married at 18. Happily married for 8 years with a toddler 😁 yes I know we’re an outlier 🤪

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No kids, but started dating at 17, married at 22 and have been married for 8 years and also happy!

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Meet at 20, still dating at 28 🙃 plan to get engaged in the next year or two

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Met at 21, married at 31

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Met at 17, engaged at 26, married at 27, happily married!

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Met at 18, started dating at 21, engaged at 28, married at 29.

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Met at 13 and married at 19, he was 16 and 22. Hitting 40 years of marriage in March. I do not recommend this, but it worked for us.

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Met at 34, engaged a year later and married 9 months later. My parents were married when they were in their 30s as well and only dated for 6 months. My mom always told me when she was older, she knew much faster what she wanted and what she didn’t and I think that’s probably very true.

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8 years, a kid, a house, and 2 new cars later.. I said I do 😂

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Also we were 28 . Been married 13 yrs now , so it works lol

Met at 27, engaged 1 1/2 years later, and married 1 year after that. In my now-husband’s words, that timeline is probably the best-case scenario without seeming too rushed.

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Met at 25, engaged 1.5 years after, married 1 year later

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Met at 23, engaged at 27, married at 29. We were in no rush.

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Met at 21 engaged at 23 married at 25. Been married for 1.5 and considering leaving him

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He’s the perfect pick on paper. Well educated, well paying job, attractive, worldly, same religious views. But our personalities just do not vibe...or at least havnt been lately

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22 and 9 months.

Biggest mistake of my life.

Divorced age 30.

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Good for you, sounds like you definitely made the right decision. For what's it worth, I think that's courageous!

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Met at 21, engaged at 22, married at 23. Just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary and while we’ve had ups and downs, we are really hoping this past year has been the “for worse” part!

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Met at 18, together for 7 before marriage. Next spring will be 20 yrs together.

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Met at 18, started dating at 20, he proposed 6 months into the relationship and we’ve been together for over 5 yrs now. We’ll tie the knot in 2022.

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Met when I was 23, engaged at 30, married at 32. This year I'm married 3 years and together 12, no regrets about the timeline--we bought a house together 4 years before we got married and I'm so glad we put the house first... the value of our home skyrocketed and we've done so much traveling and living pre-marriage that I feel like I've lived my own life before living one together.

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I'm also celebrating my 3rd wedding anniversary in a couple weeks though we've been together 13 years.

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